"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl thinks were moving in together

Luveno

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I'm in an LTR right now. Girl I'm with just decided to go to the university in my town...however, she can't find a place to live. Housing here is ridiculously expensive, and the college residences are slums, so she asked me if she could stay at my bachelor pad until things got worked out. Of course, I didn't refuse but I have this feeling that now she thinks that were actually gonna be living together for the entire school year....I'm definitely not ready for moving in with someone now...plus, my program is very difficult and I think having her live here could only act as a distraction. I am soon going to remind her of this.
My question isn't how to tell her; I'm going to tell her straight and to the point.. it's what I do when she gives me the retort. I could get the argument response. If she argues even a little bit shes out right away: I'm the one doing her a favor here, not the other way around.
If she acts all sad, I'm not sure how to handle that.
Additionally, if she wants to break it off, I will, no big deal.

But I'm sure there are a ton of other responses that I could get here. My question is what are these responses and how do I deal with them?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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squirrels

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Damn, man. I hope she's at LEAST buying food for you, if not chipping in SOMETHING for rent.

You don't owe her anything. If you're cool with her staying, then whatever, but I would at least make her buy the food (and cook, like a good woman :D ). I wouldn't let her manipulate you, though.
 

Luveno

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Hey, she's gonna pay half the rent, food, bills etc. She also brought some furniture. THat is actually one reason why I'm worried she wants to stay the whole year...she brought her furniture....
Should this play into it at all?
What should I expect when I tell her that I am not ready for her to move in?
 

Livingitup22

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Yup, Luveno, she's living with you. Your chances of getting her out of your place without ending the relationship are very slim. Once you have your girlfriend living with you, it is VERY hard to get them out, no matter how "temporary" the arrangement is supposed to be. If she doesn't find a place within a month or two, your very likely going to have to bite the bullet and either consider it a permanent arrangement or dump her.
 

diplomatic_lies

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Say NO from the outset. Tell her you're not ready for this sort of stuff. Make excuses. Whatever.

Once she's in, you won't get her out without dumping her. But if you stop her before she moves, then its easier.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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