Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl thinks were moving in together

Luveno

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I'm in an LTR right now. Girl I'm with just decided to go to the university in my town...however, she can't find a place to live. Housing here is ridiculously expensive, and the college residences are slums, so she asked me if she could stay at my bachelor pad until things got worked out. Of course, I didn't refuse but I have this feeling that now she thinks that were actually gonna be living together for the entire school year....I'm definitely not ready for moving in with someone now...plus, my program is very difficult and I think having her live here could only act as a distraction. I am soon going to remind her of this.
My question isn't how to tell her; I'm going to tell her straight and to the point.. it's what I do when she gives me the retort. I could get the argument response. If she argues even a little bit shes out right away: I'm the one doing her a favor here, not the other way around.
If she acts all sad, I'm not sure how to handle that.
Additionally, if she wants to break it off, I will, no big deal.

But I'm sure there are a ton of other responses that I could get here. My question is what are these responses and how do I deal with them?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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squirrels

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Damn, man. I hope she's at LEAST buying food for you, if not chipping in SOMETHING for rent.

You don't owe her anything. If you're cool with her staying, then whatever, but I would at least make her buy the food (and cook, like a good woman :D ). I wouldn't let her manipulate you, though.
 

Luveno

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Hey, she's gonna pay half the rent, food, bills etc. She also brought some furniture. THat is actually one reason why I'm worried she wants to stay the whole year...she brought her furniture....
Should this play into it at all?
What should I expect when I tell her that I am not ready for her to move in?
 

Livingitup22

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Yup, Luveno, she's living with you. Your chances of getting her out of your place without ending the relationship are very slim. Once you have your girlfriend living with you, it is VERY hard to get them out, no matter how "temporary" the arrangement is supposed to be. If she doesn't find a place within a month or two, your very likely going to have to bite the bullet and either consider it a permanent arrangement or dump her.
 

diplomatic_lies

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Say NO from the outset. Tell her you're not ready for this sort of stuff. Make excuses. Whatever.

Once she's in, you won't get her out without dumping her. But if you stop her before she moves, then its easier.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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