B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I want her to know she didn't hurt me. I gave her ego a stroking. How do I undo this?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl thinks she hurt me by breaking up with me?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
No I must change her mind. Maybe say something like "just wanted you to know you didn't hurt me. I just wanted to let you know what was going on with me at the time and that's why the relationship didn't work. Wish you the best."
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
She just can't think this. Do you guys think I'll be making an idiot out of myself by telling her she didn't hurt me?
MoreThanSmooth
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Say that if it makes you feel better, then move on. Don't get drawn into a protracted exchange of words with her, you'll just leave it feeling s***.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
B0redandl0nely
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Why did she even say it in the first place?
MoreThanSmooth
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Probably cared about you dude, didn't want you upset that you broke up. Most women are highly emotional creatures, and are sometimes over-sensitive to emotion.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
in that case maybe I should let it be.
no alpha would say that. actually thats omega. just block her and forget
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
such a pity I ****ed up with this girl...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
where do I even get it?
mrgoodstuff
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There's nothing to say. Move on.
DEEZEDBRAH
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Next her. Get off phaggotry times. Go get more babes. Best way to get "even:" is to get under hotter/thinner/younger women on top form SMV. No better way to troll said woman. Mental masturbating and talking about feelers is just painting yourself as the beta cuck she fortunately finished.
No sweeter feel in this world then running into a train wreck from the past with a girl who just turned 18 around your arm. LULZ be had. Bishs be raging. Jimmies be rustled.
marmel75
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Who cares? Find something important to do in your life. Clearly that is sorely lacking if you time to come up with this...but I guess your username should have given it away.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
You have to understand that I'm mild aspergers and severely bipolar. My mental disorders ruin all of my relationships. It's very frustrating and that's why I vent on this forum. I do go to school and have career goals so I'm not a total loser
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
beta cuck she fortuately finished? Wtf does that mean and I'm not beta cause I have depression anxiety self esteem issues. All of my mistakes stem from my mental problems. That's why they're so hard to learn from.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Move on... I wouldn't have to if I didn't **** up
Glassguy
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Da fuq?
You can't change a girls mind after she dumps you.
Move on. We all get that you fvcked up. Learn from it. Nothing that you actively do to try and change her mind will have any positive impact, only negative.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.