Set up a date with this girl from the internet for Saturday (Out of town otherwise would be sooner), and now she is trying to text me and converse with me all the time. Now, I find this annoying and a waste of my time, I would rather just text her the day of to confirm and go on the date. No need for this text crap. However, I do not want her to flake or lose interest. What are your guys opinions on this texting in limbo of a date? Ignoring her seems kinda harsh, so far I just respond every few hours with pretty bland stuff since I don't feel like being the super creative version of me I was online. I really don't care enough to chat with this girl 24/7, got way more important things to do like pay attention to basketball lol
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Girl texting me before first date
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
HedoRick
Senior Don Juan
Don't fall into the overtexting trap. Act aloof, maybe text her once a day or so. Do it just enough to keep you on her radar, but don't become a text buddy. It's an easy trap to fall into. Like you said your busy and got lots of things going on in your life. Act the part and all should go well.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Don't text her until that day. If she texts a lot, then she will probably be thinking about you more. Also, if you text all the time what will you talk about in person?
SgtSplacker
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Yeah don't be the text buddy, it only demonstrates to her your time is not valuable.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.