Set up a date with this girl from the internet for Saturday (Out of town otherwise would be sooner), and now she is trying to text me and converse with me all the time. Now, I find this annoying and a waste of my time, I would rather just text her the day of to confirm and go on the date. No need for this text crap. However, I do not want her to flake or lose interest. What are your guys opinions on this texting in limbo of a date? Ignoring her seems kinda harsh, so far I just respond every few hours with pretty bland stuff since I don't feel like being the super creative version of me I was online. I really don't care enough to chat with this girl 24/7, got way more important things to do like pay attention to basketball lol
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Girl texting me before first date
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HedoRick
Senior Don Juan
Don't fall into the overtexting trap. Act aloof, maybe text her once a day or so. Do it just enough to keep you on her radar, but don't become a text buddy. It's an easy trap to fall into. Like you said your busy and got lots of things going on in your life. Act the part and all should go well.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Don't text her until that day. If she texts a lot, then she will probably be thinking about you more. Also, if you text all the time what will you talk about in person?
SgtSplacker
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Yeah don't be the text buddy, it only demonstrates to her your time is not valuable.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.