Set up a date with this girl from the internet for Saturday (Out of town otherwise would be sooner), and now she is trying to text me and converse with me all the time. Now, I find this annoying and a waste of my time, I would rather just text her the day of to confirm and go on the date. No need for this text crap. However, I do not want her to flake or lose interest. What are your guys opinions on this texting in limbo of a date? Ignoring her seems kinda harsh, so far I just respond every few hours with pretty bland stuff since I don't feel like being the super creative version of me I was online. I really don't care enough to chat with this girl 24/7, got way more important things to do like pay attention to basketball lol
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl texting me before first date
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- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
HedoRick
Senior Don Juan
Don't fall into the overtexting trap. Act aloof, maybe text her once a day or so. Do it just enough to keep you on her radar, but don't become a text buddy. It's an easy trap to fall into. Like you said your busy and got lots of things going on in your life. Act the part and all should go well.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Don't text her until that day. If she texts a lot, then she will probably be thinking about you more. Also, if you text all the time what will you talk about in person?
SgtSplacker
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Yeah don't be the text buddy, it only demonstrates to her your time is not valuable.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.