"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CaliGuyInLondon

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okay so theres this chick i kinda like, am getting over her, but she started telling me about some guy she likes the other day on IM, it was whatever, i ran some basic bf destruction and didn't worry about it.

but tomorrow we have to rehearse because we are scene partners in an acting scene together. so if she brings him up and starts talking about him im wondering i should say something like "look i really dont wanna hear about him", or just be unresponsive, or try to act friendly? or what?

any advice?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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John_Valido

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boyfriend destructor? that stuff is for when you first meet a woman. I don't endorse it because there's better ways, but still - it will work; but it's not for once a woman has put you in a position that you "get" over her... also boyfriend destroyer stuff will not work unless it's actually her boyfriend and she's been with him for a while.

in general - you shouldn't be in a position where she's talking to you about other guys she likes. unless you guys are fvck buddies and have some kind of open relationship where you share experiences you've had... but im sure that's not the case here lol

but if you haven't had sex with her, haven't dated her, haven't made out and got a finger in - then im sorry - there's no advice to give here...


What to do in the future if a woman brings another guy up? Assume it's a test, and do not do what 90% of guys would do (which would be: either comparing him to yourself and trying to show how much better you are. or visually or verbally showing jealousy)....

unresponsive? not quite... but try to take back the "frame" (change the subject to something you want to talk about) as quickly as possible...
 

CaliGuyInLondon

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yeah, no i understand all your points.
i guess i wasn't all that clear in my initial post.

im like sick of this chick and literally trying to move on. the only reason im talking to her for the next week is because i have to do the scene, i plan on moving on completely right after that. there's quite a long story to it, but its long.

basically im just wondering, since i dont care and am not trying to hook up with her or anything, is it ****ed up if im like listen i dont wanna hear about your ****. i mean i still wanna be a man about it, and not come across as a *****, so thats why i asked. s hould i just nod my head and be like whatever, or just finally be honest and tell her i dont give a ****. in nicer words of course. if that makes sense. or does it not even matter. ha.
 

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nicer words? you're trying to get over this girl, and i believe you when you say you'd be moving on better if you weren't around her....

so...

screw it... don't worry about "nicer words"... go the weirder out by her weirdness route! ha

HER: so did i tell you how terrific Trevor is.... he was...
YOU: Ew, get the fvck away from me! I'm not your girlfriend.

simple.... anytime she brings him up - act like she's weird... act like a booger just came out of her nose.

don't be too serious with it.

you don't care after all.... right?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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