"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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okay so theres this chick i kinda like, am getting over her, but she started telling me about some guy she likes the other day on IM, it was whatever, i ran some basic bf destruction and didn't worry about it.

but tomorrow we have to rehearse because we are scene partners in an acting scene together. so if she brings him up and starts talking about him im wondering i should say something like "look i really dont wanna hear about him", or just be unresponsive, or try to act friendly? or what?

any advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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boyfriend destructor? that stuff is for when you first meet a woman. I don't endorse it because there's better ways, but still - it will work; but it's not for once a woman has put you in a position that you "get" over her... also boyfriend destroyer stuff will not work unless it's actually her boyfriend and she's been with him for a while.

in general - you shouldn't be in a position where she's talking to you about other guys she likes. unless you guys are fvck buddies and have some kind of open relationship where you share experiences you've had... but im sure that's not the case here lol

but if you haven't had sex with her, haven't dated her, haven't made out and got a finger in - then im sorry - there's no advice to give here...


What to do in the future if a woman brings another guy up? Assume it's a test, and do not do what 90% of guys would do (which would be: either comparing him to yourself and trying to show how much better you are. or visually or verbally showing jealousy)....

unresponsive? not quite... but try to take back the "frame" (change the subject to something you want to talk about) as quickly as possible...
 
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yeah, no i understand all your points.
i guess i wasn't all that clear in my initial post.

im like sick of this chick and literally trying to move on. the only reason im talking to her for the next week is because i have to do the scene, i plan on moving on completely right after that. there's quite a long story to it, but its long.

basically im just wondering, since i dont care and am not trying to hook up with her or anything, is it ****ed up if im like listen i dont wanna hear about your ****. i mean i still wanna be a man about it, and not come across as a *****, so thats why i asked. s hould i just nod my head and be like whatever, or just finally be honest and tell her i dont give a ****. in nicer words of course. if that makes sense. or does it not even matter. ha.
 
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nicer words? you're trying to get over this girl, and i believe you when you say you'd be moving on better if you weren't around her....

so...

screw it... don't worry about "nicer words"... go the weirder out by her weirdness route! ha

HER: so did i tell you how terrific Trevor is.... he was...
YOU: Ew, get the fvck away from me! I'm not your girlfriend.

simple.... anytime she brings him up - act like she's weird... act like a booger just came out of her nose.

don't be too serious with it.

you don't care after all.... right?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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