"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CaliGuyInLondon

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okay so theres this chick i kinda like, am getting over her, but she started telling me about some guy she likes the other day on IM, it was whatever, i ran some basic bf destruction and didn't worry about it.

but tomorrow we have to rehearse because we are scene partners in an acting scene together. so if she brings him up and starts talking about him im wondering i should say something like "look i really dont wanna hear about him", or just be unresponsive, or try to act friendly? or what?

any advice?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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John_Valido

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boyfriend destructor? that stuff is for when you first meet a woman. I don't endorse it because there's better ways, but still - it will work; but it's not for once a woman has put you in a position that you "get" over her... also boyfriend destroyer stuff will not work unless it's actually her boyfriend and she's been with him for a while.

in general - you shouldn't be in a position where she's talking to you about other guys she likes. unless you guys are fvck buddies and have some kind of open relationship where you share experiences you've had... but im sure that's not the case here lol

but if you haven't had sex with her, haven't dated her, haven't made out and got a finger in - then im sorry - there's no advice to give here...


What to do in the future if a woman brings another guy up? Assume it's a test, and do not do what 90% of guys would do (which would be: either comparing him to yourself and trying to show how much better you are. or visually or verbally showing jealousy)....

unresponsive? not quite... but try to take back the "frame" (change the subject to something you want to talk about) as quickly as possible...
 

CaliGuyInLondon

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yeah, no i understand all your points.
i guess i wasn't all that clear in my initial post.

im like sick of this chick and literally trying to move on. the only reason im talking to her for the next week is because i have to do the scene, i plan on moving on completely right after that. there's quite a long story to it, but its long.

basically im just wondering, since i dont care and am not trying to hook up with her or anything, is it ****ed up if im like listen i dont wanna hear about your ****. i mean i still wanna be a man about it, and not come across as a *****, so thats why i asked. s hould i just nod my head and be like whatever, or just finally be honest and tell her i dont give a ****. in nicer words of course. if that makes sense. or does it not even matter. ha.
 

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nicer words? you're trying to get over this girl, and i believe you when you say you'd be moving on better if you weren't around her....

so...

screw it... don't worry about "nicer words"... go the weirder out by her weirdness route! ha

HER: so did i tell you how terrific Trevor is.... he was...
YOU: Ew, get the fvck away from me! I'm not your girlfriend.

simple.... anytime she brings him up - act like she's weird... act like a booger just came out of her nose.

don't be too serious with it.

you don't care after all.... right?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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