Girl suddenly changed after 1.5 years

[AureliusMaximus]

It's preferable to get over the break up a little, rather than smashing fat chicks or 4s 5s 6s

Dude..
I said it there is not point of banging some chick that is less hot e.g. uglier than the previous one. You must have read me wrong/misunderstood me.
She must be at least the same level of "hotness" or better to make it work.

For my own record I do not touch ugly or even worse fat girls. That is disgusting and below my standard.

 

[Baibars]

@Baibars

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1701193871600840752

The longer version of the above:

Btw. don't be surprised if she pops up 3, 6 or 8 months later like a ghost.
Its quite common that chicks form the past do that. Just ignore her then if that should happen.

i didn’t mean good girl in a sense that she has a good past. She was just always submissive, cooked, respected me, texted me proactively. These are things I value.
I just felt good. If I date a super hot chick that’s not that much into me, I would prefer one that looks worse but does foot care on me like this one.
But yeah she has lots of red flags and is not worth wifing.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

i didn’t mean good girl in a sense that she has a good past. She was just always submissive, cooked, respected me, texted me proactively. These are things I value.
I just felt good. If I date a super hot chick that’s not that much into me, I would prefer one that looks worse but does foot care on me like this one.
But yeah she has lots of red flags and is not worth wifing.

There are over 4 billion girls in the world and there is no reason for dating single moms....

Find a cute girl that is not a single mom with baggage.. So many reasons why..., but I expect you already know many of them now after dating one.

 

[Baibars]

UPDATE:

She came to my place last evening. I confronted her and told her that I don’t need her sex or kisses and that she can go now.
She cried the whole time and didn’t want to go. She swears that there was no other guy and that she just worked and took care of her daughter. I always had her phone password and I wanted her to prove everything and show me her phone. She said she doesn’t want that anymore which is very suspicious. She says she doesn’t want our relationship to be like this and that I treat her like dirt sometimes ( which I did )

she said that during the whole relationship she didn’t feel well sometimes. Also admitted that the one time when I didn’t allow her to go to her companies event, she still went there.


It was late and we just slept, she was also feeling a bit sick.
In the morning we had sex and later she said she didn’t really want it.
whenever I initiated kisses or sexual thing she showed me that she doesnt want it.

She says that after all of the things that happened something changed within her. The last few month she didn’t even want sex and she claims that she wants sex with nobody. She feels depressed and also smoked weed the whole time we didn’t see each other which made her feel indifferent.
The things is, she came here and constantly wants to hug and cuddle and cried so much. I said that I dont tolerate being with her if we’re not intimate at all.

@Learning Curve

 

[CjXo]

She’s probably going through a depression phase. The weed ain’t helping either.
Dude you’re mismanaging her big time. Listen to her. Pick up the small pieces, try to find the cause, and come with a solution(if she haven’t jumped ships yet) .
But ofc u r a sex addict “modern” lazy western male & could careless.

 

[Learning Curve]

UPDATE:

She came to my place last evening. I confronted her and told her that I don’t need her sex or kisses and that she can go now.
She cried the whole time and didn’t want to go. She swears that there was no other guy and that she just worked and took care of her daughter. I always had her phone password and I wanted her to prove everything and show me her phone. She said she doesn’t want that anymore which is very suspicious. She says she doesn’t want our relationship to be like this and that I treat her like dirt sometimes ( which I did )

she said that during the whole relationship she didn’t feel well sometimes. Also admitted that the one time when I didn’t allow her to go to her companies event, she still went there.


It was late and we just slept, she was also feeling a bit sick.
In the morning we had sex and later she said she didn’t really want it.
whenever I initiated kisses or sexual thing she showed me that she doesnt want it.

She says that after all of the things that happened something changed within her. The last few month she didn’t even want sex and she claims that she wants sex with nobody. She feels depressed and also smoked weed the whole time we didn’t see each other which made her feel indifferent.
The things is, she came here and constantly wants to hug and cuddle and cried so much. I said that I dont tolerate being with her if we’re not intimate at all.

@Learning Curve

I will be honest with you because I want to help you.

You seem over-controlling. This shows weakness from your side and insecurity.

she said that during the whole relationship she didn’t feel well sometimes. Also admitted that the one time when I didn’t allow her to go to her companies event, she still went there.

What does it mean you did not allow her? Let her go. If a woman will cheat or flirt she will do that no matter what you do. You must to understand that you need to love someone or care about someone in a way they feel free in a relationship. You can't control a woman.

I don't judge you i have done this years ago when i was clue-less with women. Let her go and roam around with her friends, work or whatever she is doing. The moment you start to control her you lose power. You want the woman to actually want to be around you at all times even when she is out. You do that by allowing her to do whatever the f3uck she wants.

At the end of the day if a woman wants to cheat or play around she will and trust me you will never find out.

Remove this insecurity and grow a pair of balls.

She says that after all of the things that happened something changed within her. The last few month she didn’t even want sex and she claims that she wants sex with nobody. She feels depressed and also smoked weed the whole time we didn’t see each other which made her feel indifferent.
The things is, she came here and constantly wants to hug and cuddle and cried so much. I said that I dont tolerate being with her if we’re not intimate at all.

Pure excuses of a woman who is confused and has low interest.

You banged which is good. Forget what she is saying. Keep doing what you are doing.

Invite her each time she reaches out to your place, bang, and repeat.

The problem is that her attraction has dropped because you over-controlled and played the relationship like a robot. Now you have to show you actually changed your approach and let her do all the chasing. You can't magically make her want you again. Or have the same level of intimacy. This will take time if it ever reaches the same level as before.

Don't chase at all.

You could salvage this but chances are slim she has to take her time-off fully away from you. Let her chase and try to limit how much you see her so she wants more of your time. Keep it at 1-2 days a week max.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I think you lost your frame, because you never really had it.

 

[Baibars]

I will be honest with you because I want to help you.

You seem over-controlling. This shows weakness from your side and insecurity.



What does it mean you did not allow her? Let her go. If a woman will cheat or flirt she will do that no matter what you do. You must to understand that you need to love someone or care about someone in a way they feel free in a relationship. You can't control a woman.

I don't judge you i have done this years ago when i was clue-less with women. Let her go and roam around with her friends, work or whatever she is doing. The moment you start to control her you lose power. You want the woman to actually want to be around you at all times even when she is out. You do that by allowing her to do whatever the f3uck she wants.

At the end of the day if a woman wants to cheat or play around she will and trust me you will never find out.

Remove this insecurity and grow a pair of balls.



Pure excuses of a woman who is confused and has low interest.

You banged which is good. Forget what she is saying. Keep doing what you are doing.

Invite her each time she reaches out to your place, bang, and repeat.

The problem is that her attraction has dropped because you over-controlled and played the relationship like a robot. Now you have to show you actually changed your approach and let her do all the chasing. You can't magically make her want you again. Or have the same level of intimacy. This will take time if it ever reaches the same level as before.

Don't chase at all.

You could salvage this but chances are slim she has to take her time-off fully away from you. Let her chase and try to limit how much you see her so she wants more of your time. Keep it at 1-2 days a week max.

thank you for your honest words.

I feel like **** now but yeah I get what I did wrong.
I got attached even though I thought I had the power all the time. She was chasing me. I just used it to my advantage but in the meantime I got attached. When she didn’t react the way I expected i revealed my weakness.

how can I get detached?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

how can I get detached?

Study fudoshin or stoicism.

 

[Learning Curve]

thank you for your honest words.

I feel like **** now but yeah I get what I did wrong.
I got attached even though I thought I had the power all the time. She was chasing me. I just used it to my advantage but in the meantime I got attached. When she didn’t react the way I expected i revealed my weakness.

how can I get detached?

The hard way.

Move on. Control your emotions.

Start other activities that will occupy most of your time besides this girl, and give you a sense of energy and purpose.

No other way around. You can't magically stop thinking about her. It's hard I know.

It will take time. But think about how strong your emotional center will become from this situation.

 

[Baibars]

Met a sweet 20 year old girl today and we made out touched her tities. She texted me after the date and asked me for a second date.
She wants to come over Monday and I’ll probably bang her.

i still feel like crap.
I made a mistake today and texted this girl again. I’m fcking attached and I can’t forget the whole 2 years we spend together and Everything she did for me. I’m very emotional and i confronted her again and said I don’t want this anymore. She called me and cried on the phone.
I text long paragraphs, she texts back. All she says is she has feelings for me and don’t want to let go but at the same time she says nothing can be like before now, she’s depressed and she is very distant doesn’t wanna meet or bang.
I’ll let her deleted and don’t talk to her . She wants me to stay in contact but how can I when I’m attached like a mf? I can’t just treat her like any girl after all. That’s the problem.

shouldn’t have texted her I know.