Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
We're here dude,but what do you expect us to say?vagrant said:anybody?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Igetit! said:We're here dude,but what do you expect us to say?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Best advice i've heard on the subject in a good while.Warrior74 said:Fock those guys....as a father, life goes on after kids. Kids are great. It's their mothers that's the problem.
Does she have medical issues? On birth control? Under lots of stress?
Is she dating anyone else? Do you even suspect she might be? DNA test before you sign a birth certificate.
If you aren't going to marry her, don't pretend to. Tell her that you will be there for her and the baby. There will be some bull**** to deal with if you choose not to marry her. If she is low class she will be vindictive and use the baby as a weapon to punish you. I she's a decent girl and honest about herself, her feelings, the situation and circumstance...she may act like a halfway decent person about it all.
Good luck man. If its yours and you need advice i would suggest posting in the mature man forum on this topic.
Yeah that plastic Y shaped thing.One of my female friends is on some sort of birth control and only gets her period twice a year (from what she says). Maybe this girl is on the same or a similar thing?
Just thought of it as a possibility that hasn't been posted yet in the thread.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I second thislogicallefty said:push her down the steps![]()
Condoms cut of the blood flow!Dannyrt34 said:seriously what makes everyone think having sex without a condom worth the risk
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.