I've been chatting with a girl on Okcupid. We had talked about meeting up for coffee today but she couldn't bc she has to work but she said she was off tuesday. So I said that's cool, we can tuesday then. Well that was 2 days ago and she hasn't sent anything back yet. I don't know if i should message her or not. I didn't try to get her number yet bc some people on here said it would be better to set up the date first and then get the number. So what should I do? Any help would be great.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl starting to flake
- Thread starter adamw5963
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
My rules on OKC:
1. Establish contact right away with a message that puts yourself above the rest. I tend towards really ridiculous and hilarious with obvious flirting. Do what works for you.
2. Send 1-2 messages back and forth. Keep it short, aloof and tons of joking around and flirting. Get the number.
3. Text her one time to establish contact and let her know it's you. After she responds set up the date.
The timeframe is irrelevant as it will depend on response time from her, but you should keep your response time about the same as hers. Follow the above steps and you'll see better results. On OKC you have to move fast, as soon as you put yourself above the rest take advantage of the situation; girls' interest declines insanely fast over OKC because of the fact that they're reading words on a computer screen. Get them in person ASAP and you'll be more successful.
Regarding this situation specifically, she sounds like a lost cause. I'd quit wasting my time if I were you.
1. Establish contact right away with a message that puts yourself above the rest. I tend towards really ridiculous and hilarious with obvious flirting. Do what works for you.
2. Send 1-2 messages back and forth. Keep it short, aloof and tons of joking around and flirting. Get the number.
3. Text her one time to establish contact and let her know it's you. After she responds set up the date.
The timeframe is irrelevant as it will depend on response time from her, but you should keep your response time about the same as hers. Follow the above steps and you'll see better results. On OKC you have to move fast, as soon as you put yourself above the rest take advantage of the situation; girls' interest declines insanely fast over OKC because of the fact that they're reading words on a computer screen. Get them in person ASAP and you'll be more successful.
Regarding this situation specifically, she sounds like a lost cause. I'd quit wasting my time if I were you.
Come up with your own, I'm not here to pick up girls for you. Just say something ridiculous and stupid that touches on a random fact in her profile, throw in a flirty stupid line and make sure you have correct punctuation and you're above probably every single guy she receives messages from.adamw5963 said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Simple case for Judge nismo.
In your case, don't wait around for her. Your princess is in another castle. Accept this, move on, and remember for next time to get the girl off the net quickly. When you call, set up the date, and be busy. You need not linger on the phone. Keep a sense of mystery. You are hereby ordered to learn from this mistake, understand that all girls can flake, and come up with a battle plan for your sake. Spin more plates always. :yes: That's my verdict.
Case closed.
In your case, don't wait around for her. Your princess is in another castle. Accept this, move on, and remember for next time to get the girl off the net quickly. When you call, set up the date, and be busy. You need not linger on the phone. Keep a sense of mystery. You are hereby ordered to learn from this mistake, understand that all girls can flake, and come up with a battle plan for your sake. Spin more plates always. :yes: That's my verdict.
Case closed.
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Lmao I like how Nismo put it in.