I've been chatting with a girl on Okcupid. We had talked about meeting up for coffee today but she couldn't bc she has to work but she said she was off tuesday. So I said that's cool, we can tuesday then. Well that was 2 days ago and she hasn't sent anything back yet. I don't know if i should message her or not. I didn't try to get her number yet bc some people on here said it would be better to set up the date first and then get the number. So what should I do? Any help would be great.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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Girl starting to flake
- Thread starter adamw5963
- Start date
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
My rules on OKC:
1. Establish contact right away with a message that puts yourself above the rest. I tend towards really ridiculous and hilarious with obvious flirting. Do what works for you.
2. Send 1-2 messages back and forth. Keep it short, aloof and tons of joking around and flirting. Get the number.
3. Text her one time to establish contact and let her know it's you. After she responds set up the date.
The timeframe is irrelevant as it will depend on response time from her, but you should keep your response time about the same as hers. Follow the above steps and you'll see better results. On OKC you have to move fast, as soon as you put yourself above the rest take advantage of the situation; girls' interest declines insanely fast over OKC because of the fact that they're reading words on a computer screen. Get them in person ASAP and you'll be more successful.
Regarding this situation specifically, she sounds like a lost cause. I'd quit wasting my time if I were you.
1. Establish contact right away with a message that puts yourself above the rest. I tend towards really ridiculous and hilarious with obvious flirting. Do what works for you.
2. Send 1-2 messages back and forth. Keep it short, aloof and tons of joking around and flirting. Get the number.
3. Text her one time to establish contact and let her know it's you. After she responds set up the date.
The timeframe is irrelevant as it will depend on response time from her, but you should keep your response time about the same as hers. Follow the above steps and you'll see better results. On OKC you have to move fast, as soon as you put yourself above the rest take advantage of the situation; girls' interest declines insanely fast over OKC because of the fact that they're reading words on a computer screen. Get them in person ASAP and you'll be more successful.
Regarding this situation specifically, she sounds like a lost cause. I'd quit wasting my time if I were you.
Come up with your own, I'm not here to pick up girls for you. Just say something ridiculous and stupid that touches on a random fact in her profile, throw in a flirty stupid line and make sure you have correct punctuation and you're above probably every single guy she receives messages from.adamw5963 said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
nismo-4
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Simple case for Judge nismo.
In your case, don't wait around for her. Your princess is in another castle. Accept this, move on, and remember for next time to get the girl off the net quickly. When you call, set up the date, and be busy. You need not linger on the phone. Keep a sense of mystery. You are hereby ordered to learn from this mistake, understand that all girls can flake, and come up with a battle plan for your sake. Spin more plates always. :yes: That's my verdict.
Case closed.
In your case, don't wait around for her. Your princess is in another castle. Accept this, move on, and remember for next time to get the girl off the net quickly. When you call, set up the date, and be busy. You need not linger on the phone. Keep a sense of mystery. You are hereby ordered to learn from this mistake, understand that all girls can flake, and come up with a battle plan for your sake. Spin more plates always. :yes: That's my verdict.
Case closed.
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Lmao I like how Nismo put it in.