"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girl scratched her skin off.

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This girl I'd been smashing scratched her skin off during an argument.
Another time she did it for fun and showed me the bandages during sex.
Can anyone experienced tell me what's this all about?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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RUN!
If you really need more info, Google it.

DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT attempt to white knight this. Only a licensed professional can help her.

Just stop contact.
 

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It means you should run.
Major red flag for borderline or other forms of psychopathy.
Any other red flags you felt in your gut?
Dyed hair, tattoos, piercings

Divorced parents

Lots of guy friends

No close set of girlfriends, gets very close to one and drops them soon

Saw her sister beat walls, getting bruised and posting pics. Apparently she's joined some martial arts
 

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She needs professional help.

Clearly she has inner demons she is dealing with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dyed hair, tattoos, piercings

Divorced parents

Lots of guy friends

No close set of girlfriends, gets very close to one and drops them soon

Saw her sister beat walls, getting bruised and posting pics. Apparently she's joined some martial arts

Major red flags.
Be careful, after the honeymoon the shyt will progressively get worse, first they build you up like a king, and then they will tear you down and spit you out. They also cheat non stop, and lie.
In the end they will humiliate you as you are burnt to pieces.

It's essential you study borderline personality disorder (BPD), there are numerous topics about the disorder on this site.
This is no joke, BPD is a cluster B personality disorder, closely related to sociopathy/psychopathy.

Run.
 

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If the personality disorder or whatever she has is so bad she self harms, it is a severe case. She will more than likely turn your life into a living hell if you stay within her grasp.
Exit ASAP
 
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This girl I'd been smashing scratched her skin off during an argument.
Another time she did it for fun and showed me the bandages during sex.
Can anyone experienced tell me what's this all about?
Same behaviour as girls who cut themselves.

This is a sign of deeper seeded mental issue. Beware of these type of women. Run. Do not walk away. Run.
 

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RUN!
If you really need more info, Google it.

DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT attempt to white knight this. Only a licensed professional can help her.

Just stop contact.
Don't you think it's too much to just let her go considering she's possibly just acting out?
Isn't it a drastic step?
No way to make it work with her?
 

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Don't you think it's too much to just let her go considering she's possibly just acting out?
Isn't it a drastic step?
No way to make it work with her?
Take the advice of the men here that have run into these types of females before.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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If the personality disorder or whatever she has is so bad she self harms, it is a severe case. She will more than likely turn your life into a living hell if you stay within her grasp.
Exit ASAP
Looks like you've had first hand experience here.

It's surprising to see every person here giving concurrent advice.
I'm obviously not too blindsided to not take it.
But If you could elaborate a little more I'll be thankful.
 

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Elaborate how? You're not a psychiatrist, giving love to someone with these types of issues isn't going to fix them. In fact, in the end you will have first hand knowledge of what roadkill looks like.

Honestly, your first standard for women to date is that they 'display normal behavior'

The best thing you can do for her is to tell her that she has issues she needs to work on, good luck and good bye
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Don't you think it's too much to just let her go considering she's possibly just acting out?
Isn't it a drastic step?
No way to make it work with her?
The way to make it work with girls who act out is to not put up with their bs. When they know you will walk and not look back then they won't play those games. If they still do after you have out your foot down then they are a special kind of crazy you don't want to be with anyways.
 

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The way to make it work with girls who act out is to not put up with their bs. When they know you will walk and not look back then they won't play those games. If they still do after you have out your foot down then they are a special kind of crazy you don't want to be with anyways.
You are literally inviting trouble in if you do this.
 

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You are literally inviting trouble in if you do this.
He was asking if there is any way to make it work. Personally i would just walk away, and next her but if he is willing to try, then he needs to put his foot down. I agree with you. It will be trouble. But he has to be prepaired to walk away.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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