"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl says she just broke up with her bf

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Allurre

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Don't ever let the words "I'm not ready" stop you from establishing a connection with her. The key is to not come as too forward, but keep in touch and gradually raise her interest level.

You need to build emotional rapport with her, but not let her cry all over you and go on for hours about her past relationship.

I'm not certain of what position you're in right now... are you planning to return to her and ask for digits later?
 

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BongDuy said:
What do you say? Pretend you are about to get her number, or make a move, and she suddenly confesses that she "isnt ready" because she just got out of a relationship with a bf
I doubt she'd "suddenly" confess she isn't ready to date because she just got out of a relationship. More than likely,everything you said and did to her leading up to this so-called "confession" simply did not create attraction in her. So her telling you she "isn't ready" was just another way of turning you down.

Women rarely,RARELY,reject men with a flat out "no". They say things that equal no.

Think about this for a second. Do you really think she going to tell you she isn't ready,wait a few weeks or months later,then contact you and go,"Ok,I'm ready. We can start dating now."?

I've gotten the so called,"I can't date right now" line before,then a week or two later,I'd see the same woman out somewhere walking and holding hands with another guy.

So basically when you get the "I'm not ready line",is doesn't mean she isn't ready. It means you screwed up somewhere earlier in the approach.
 

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this was just a situation i was in a long time ago, when i met this girl who i was holding back on. i was a huge AFC back then, but i was thinking that i wasnt going to rush anything until she was ready because she was texting my friend and was talking to him about me, and she said " well i like him, but i dont think im ready for a relationship" so i was like " okay when she seems ready i will make a move" unfortunately, i was an idiot and i didn't make a move, costing me a relationship and putting me in the friend zone. she now has a bf
 
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