"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl says my confidence is hot but...

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So one of my plates that I haven't sexed yet is very nice and cool. We we're talking about non serious stuff, being sarcastic mood and joking around and I said "oh well good cause I'm intresting and I have a big package" (we had a sarcastic funny wibe going, not as creepy as it looks here) Then she txts me back:
" I find it sexy that you're very confident and bossy. And im not going to lie but this confidence of yours does slightly intimidate me too... :p"

.... what the ****?...

I haven't been overtly ****y or an huge *******. That what I wrote might be the ****iest thing I've said to her :p What the hell does intimidating mean?

Well I asked her. Let's see. I want some insight from my fellow DJnians too :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I wouldn't listen to that sh*t. That's just one of those things that women say that has no bearing on reality.

She likes you, she's attracted to you, you'll get her naked in at MOST a week.
 

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shes looking to be dominated. by you of course.
 

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Judging from that response, it seems she into you.

I would respond back with something like

"Good :)"

its playful yet serious and doesn't leave any room for you to really go overboard or screw up. I would follow-up on it soon and make a move.

Since i know one of my weakness's is always saying too much, i always try to watch what i say and say as little as possible to convey my answer/actions.
 

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Well i asked her: Intimidates? What are we, rivaling alphamales?

She answered: Yes intimidates, you make me nervous sometimes with your confidence! Haha, okay this sounds kind of funny, but it's true.

I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).

This is fun :)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Perfect10 said:
Well i asked her: Intimidates? What are we, rivaling alphamales?

She answered: Yes intimidates, you make me nervous sometimes with your confidence! Haha, okay this sounds kind of funny, but it's true.

I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).

This is fun :)
Okay Romeo.

You've given her enough attention for one day. Save some for the face-to-face.
 

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sounds like she's joking around with you on that line. It's not a big deal, don't worry about it.
 

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second Iceberg's comment
 

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Muauha. Got a response. This one is SO kickass you guys will cry of joy!

"Well nervous... not like in a bad way :) well yea, I think that might kinda be it: you're a pretty normal dude, but then have a very strong personality and opinions and you assert yourself as being very confident through both your talking and behaviour. But yeah bottom line you make me feel nervous and a bit like a little girl you know on a date with a guy. Which is totally not a normal feeling for me, cause usually I am like very overtly confident and I have a huge "im too good for you" ego around guys."

Well i'm going to take this as, yes she's falling for me. Extremly attracted buy ABSOLUTELY not relashionship material.
 

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Good point Ice. I'll just respond. "Good! and goodnight"
That should mess with her a bit.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Jesus this is turning from a light bit of flirting into an UN Security Council meeting about Iran's potential nuclear weapon capabilities. If a woman text me that, I'd take that as a major compliment and a huge sign that she was into me and I'd be trying to arrange a meet up with this girl.

Remember as easy as it is to attract a woman, it's also as easy to lose her attraction.
 

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Awesome Perfect10, I'm in a similar situation with a great gal I met a few weeks ago.

All I would add is don't for get the 1 step forward 2 steps back. ie PUSH/PULL.
Give her a little less responses and make sure you sometimes take hours to return them.

Pace yourself buddy...you're doing well...
 

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Perfect10 said:
I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).
You just shot yourself in the foot here.

Take a compliment and leave it.

Don't start "explaining" and convincing her that you're a "normal dude".

Don't worry though, this isn't a game killer.
 

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Vice said:
You just shot yourself in the foot here.

Take a compliment and leave it.

Don't start "explaining" and convincing her that you're a "normal dude".

Don't worry though, this isn't a game killer.
+1 absolutely. maintain your mysterious ways.
 

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who cares, most everything a girl says is meaningless nonsense (i love you today, i think of you as a friend tomorrow). what she is doing is all that matters.. you or someone else? analyzing = dead end.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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st_99 said:
who cares, most everything a girl says is meaningless nonsense (i love you today, i think of you as a friend tomorrow). what she is doing is all that matters.. you or someone else? analyzing = dead end.

This is all that matters.

I wrote this thread for fun, I don't need advice.
My game isn't perfect by all means but I know the **** they teach here in this forum will most likely **** you up. I'm getting laid enough by cute enough girls. Sometimes I come here to see what's happening but I've not really learned a lot from this site. What I have learned is exactly what St_99 said.

Don't analyze. Who gives a damn? If she doesn't like, then she doesn't like. I'm not going to stress and think about how to "game" her while I'm on a date. I'm myself and flirty. I talk what I want, about what I want be it religion, race, abortions or cookies. I don't limit myself in anyway, that would only cause me stress which would **** my concentration of actually listening about what the other person I'm meeting has to say.

That is the contradiction in this site: "DJmaster": Hey dude, you're such a *****. You should've held her hand for 2,2 second not 1,5. Also try saying "condom" in every sentence to show your sexuality.
*****: Okay I will say condom in my every sentence! From now condom on!
 

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so here your to hype up your ego basically since you're not here for self help.

nice...
 

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AAAgent said:
so here your to hype up your ego basically since you're not here for self help.

nice...
Just like everything he has ever posted here... starting from his nickname... lol
 
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