"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl says my confidence is hot but...

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So one of my plates that I haven't sexed yet is very nice and cool. We we're talking about non serious stuff, being sarcastic mood and joking around and I said "oh well good cause I'm intresting and I have a big package" (we had a sarcastic funny wibe going, not as creepy as it looks here) Then she txts me back:
" I find it sexy that you're very confident and bossy. And im not going to lie but this confidence of yours does slightly intimidate me too... :p"

.... what the ****?...

I haven't been overtly ****y or an huge *******. That what I wrote might be the ****iest thing I've said to her :p What the hell does intimidating mean?

Well I asked her. Let's see. I want some insight from my fellow DJnians too :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I wouldn't listen to that sh*t. That's just one of those things that women say that has no bearing on reality.

She likes you, she's attracted to you, you'll get her naked in at MOST a week.
 
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shes looking to be dominated. by you of course.
 
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Judging from that response, it seems she into you.

I would respond back with something like

"Good :)"

its playful yet serious and doesn't leave any room for you to really go overboard or screw up. I would follow-up on it soon and make a move.

Since i know one of my weakness's is always saying too much, i always try to watch what i say and say as little as possible to convey my answer/actions.
 
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Well i asked her: Intimidates? What are we, rivaling alphamales?

She answered: Yes intimidates, you make me nervous sometimes with your confidence! Haha, okay this sounds kind of funny, but it's true.

I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).

This is fun :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Perfect10 said:
Well i asked her: Intimidates? What are we, rivaling alphamales?

She answered: Yes intimidates, you make me nervous sometimes with your confidence! Haha, okay this sounds kind of funny, but it's true.

I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).

This is fun :)
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Okay Romeo.

You've given her enough attention for one day. Save some for the face-to-face.
 
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sounds like she's joking around with you on that line. It's not a big deal, don't worry about it.
 
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second Iceberg's comment
 
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Muauha. Got a response. This one is SO kickass you guys will cry of joy!

"Well nervous... not like in a bad way :) well yea, I think that might kinda be it: you're a pretty normal dude, but then have a very strong personality and opinions and you assert yourself as being very confident through both your talking and behaviour. But yeah bottom line you make me feel nervous and a bit like a little girl you know on a date with a guy. Which is totally not a normal feeling for me, cause usually I am like very overtly confident and I have a huge "im too good for you" ego around guys."

Well i'm going to take this as, yes she's falling for me. Extremly attracted buy ABSOLUTELY not relashionship material.
 
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Good point Ice. I'll just respond. "Good! and goodnight"
That should mess with her a bit.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jesus this is turning from a light bit of flirting into an UN Security Council meeting about Iran's potential nuclear weapon capabilities. If a woman text me that, I'd take that as a major compliment and a huge sign that she was into me and I'd be trying to arrange a meet up with this girl.

Remember as easy as it is to attract a woman, it's also as easy to lose her attraction.
 
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Awesome Perfect10, I'm in a similar situation with a great gal I met a few weeks ago.

All I would add is don't for get the 1 step forward 2 steps back. ie PUSH/PULL.
Give her a little less responses and make sure you sometimes take hours to return them.

Pace yourself buddy...you're doing well...
 
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Perfect10 said:
I text (toning down my aggressiveness) : Okay, this is getting intresting :) Good nervous or bad nervous? I've never gotten that response before, I'm a normal dude after all (I though maybe some hooks or whatever they call them in MM. Like show just a bit of vournability).
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You just shot yourself in the foot here.

Take a compliment and leave it.

Don't start "explaining" and convincing her that you're a "normal dude".

Don't worry though, this isn't a game killer.
 
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Vice said:
You just shot yourself in the foot here.

Take a compliment and leave it.

Don't start "explaining" and convincing her that you're a "normal dude".

Don't worry though, this isn't a game killer.
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+1 absolutely. maintain your mysterious ways.
 
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who cares, most everything a girl says is meaningless nonsense (i love you today, i think of you as a friend tomorrow). what she is doing is all that matters.. you or someone else? analyzing = dead end.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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st_99 said:
who cares, most everything a girl says is meaningless nonsense (i love you today, i think of you as a friend tomorrow). what she is doing is all that matters.. you or someone else? analyzing = dead end.
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This is all that matters.

I wrote this thread for fun, I don't need advice.
My game isn't perfect by all means but I know the **** they teach here in this forum will most likely **** you up. I'm getting laid enough by cute enough girls. Sometimes I come here to see what's happening but I've not really learned a lot from this site. What I have learned is exactly what St_99 said.

Don't analyze. Who gives a damn? If she doesn't like, then she doesn't like. I'm not going to stress and think about how to "game" her while I'm on a date. I'm myself and flirty. I talk what I want, about what I want be it religion, race, abortions or cookies. I don't limit myself in anyway, that would only cause me stress which would **** my concentration of actually listening about what the other person I'm meeting has to say.

That is the contradiction in this site: "DJmaster": Hey dude, you're such a *****. You should've held her hand for 2,2 second not 1,5. Also try saying "condom" in every sentence to show your sexuality.
*****: Okay I will say condom in my every sentence! From now condom on!
 
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so here your to hype up your ego basically since you're not here for self help.

nice...
 
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so here your to hype up your ego basically since you're not here for self help.

nice...
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Just like everything he has ever posted here... starting from his nickname... lol
 
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