"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Girl says I make her feel like an object

E_Sex

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So I've encountered a problem with this girl that I've been talking to. She's stopped fooling around with me and trying to have sex with me, because I make her feel like an object.

Anybody else have this problem? and what do I do in this situation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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mahoney

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ask her to be more specific about what things you do that make her feel this way
 

SharinganUser

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E_Sex said:
So I've encountered a problem with this girl that I've been talking to. She's stopped fooling around with me and trying to have sex with me, because I make her feel like an object.

Anybody else have this problem? and what do I do in this situation?
Have you tried doing non sex related things?
 

PapiChulo

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Canada, eh?
You probably have just been f^%king too much.
 

DonGorgon

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Girl says I make her feel like an object = she thinks you are too emotionally cold..

1. if she is still Fing you then keep doing what you are doing..
2. if she is cutting off sex then make her her think you see value in her outside of sex..
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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thevilittletroll

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agreed with last post....bottom line you need to build more of an emotional connection with her. show her that its not all about the sex. doing something fun outside the bedroom wouldnt be a bad idea. or the next time she comes over just dont initiate or have sex with her, while doing something fun. then kick her out saying, you cant stay i have to get up early tomorrow.
 

49au

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Got a speech like this once after a first date that started with drinks and ended up with us back at my place doing everything but fvcking.

So for date 2 I proposed that we go bowling, have no drinks, and do it at a place that wasn't really very close to either of our apartments. I sincerely told her that I enjoyed her company and had no problem with a date and us not getting sexual.

She accepted, we went and had fun. Afterwards she attacked me in the parking lot. Then she asked to go have some wine at my place. I told her that I wasn't sure, as I didn't want her to think it was just sexual. She reassured me. We went back to my place. Happy ending.
 
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