"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl says I make her feel like an object

E_Sex

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So I've encountered a problem with this girl that I've been talking to. She's stopped fooling around with me and trying to have sex with me, because I make her feel like an object.

Anybody else have this problem? and what do I do in this situation?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mahoney

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ask her to be more specific about what things you do that make her feel this way
 

SharinganUser

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E_Sex said:
So I've encountered a problem with this girl that I've been talking to. She's stopped fooling around with me and trying to have sex with me, because I make her feel like an object.

Anybody else have this problem? and what do I do in this situation?
Have you tried doing non sex related things?
 

PapiChulo

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Canada, eh?
You probably have just been f^%king too much.
 

DonGorgon

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Girl says I make her feel like an object = she thinks you are too emotionally cold..

1. if she is still Fing you then keep doing what you are doing..
2. if she is cutting off sex then make her her think you see value in her outside of sex..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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thevilittletroll

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agreed with last post....bottom line you need to build more of an emotional connection with her. show her that its not all about the sex. doing something fun outside the bedroom wouldnt be a bad idea. or the next time she comes over just dont initiate or have sex with her, while doing something fun. then kick her out saying, you cant stay i have to get up early tomorrow.
 

49au

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Got a speech like this once after a first date that started with drinks and ended up with us back at my place doing everything but fvcking.

So for date 2 I proposed that we go bowling, have no drinks, and do it at a place that wasn't really very close to either of our apartments. I sincerely told her that I enjoyed her company and had no problem with a date and us not getting sexual.

She accepted, we went and had fun. Afterwards she attacked me in the parking lot. Then she asked to go have some wine at my place. I told her that I wasn't sure, as I didn't want her to think it was just sexual. She reassured me. We went back to my place. Happy ending.
 
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