girl said she's on her period before date

[zekko]

So, let's not just assume women are always "testing" us when they say this. They DO have periods.

Yeah, that's true. It also reminds me how guys here seem to assume a girl is lying if she says she has a boyfriend. A LOT of girls have boyfriends. Now they might cheat on them, some of them very readily, but some actually try to be faithful. As for the period, I've done it before when I was so into the moment I didn't care, but generally speaking, I'd prefer to just wait it out.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Dude... get real: WOMEN HAVE PERIODS.

Some women have short periods lasting 2-3 days, while others have periods lasting 8-9 days. Point is, at SOME point in you dating ANY woman, they will be on their period.

And, early on in the dating process, she's going to be VERY subconscious about sleeping with you when it's happening. You may be thinking "but it's no big deal, me want some now!"

SPOILER: it's a mood killer. I've slept with women who thought their period was done, or that it would be coming within a week, and then, in the middle of the festivities: SURPRISE!

Blood everywhere. Instand full stop. It's gross!

So, let's not just assume women are always "testing" us when they say this. They DO have periods. They STiLL want to feel like you'd want to spend time with them even if sex is temporarily off the table. More importantly, there's not enough of a pattern established of her blowing you off all the time for sex.

In context of the situation it lends itself very well to being a test and would be the exact setup where it would most likely occur. Again. Context is always key.

Either way, the same response is warranted. Meet up with her and make it seem like no big deal and just have fun.

 

[BPH]

This guy posted this a few hours before his date.

It's been 2 days. Just chill and let the guy update us.

 

[startingpoint]

I was thinking the same thing. I've had women warn me about their period starting the morning of when we were supposed to meet, and guess what, we ended up sleeping together anyway.

If you like her enough to enjoy her company with the possibility of no sex, then just go on the date. If the date goes well and if naturally gets physical, then move forward. If I were you, I would not push hard through any of her resistance. It comes off desperate and you risk turning her off more.

bang on
I just let the date progress naturally and we ended up sleeping anyway, she initiated asking if wanted to go somewhere more private

@startingpoint , why are you having a public date on the 4th date when you've banged her already? It should either be at your place or hers.

we're both 18 living with parents that are more traditional and doesn't leave the house much.

In context of the situation it lends itself very well to being a test and would be the exact setup where it would most likely occur. Again. Context is always key.

im curious, why did this situation made it seem like it was a test to you?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

bang on
I just let the date progress naturally and we ended up sleeping anyway, she initiated asking if wanted to go somewhere more private


we're both 18 living with parents that are more traditional and doesn't leave the house much.


im curious, why did this situation made it seem like it was a test to you?

Relatively new relationship, first date after initial time you had sex.

The goal within the first few months for most women is to determine whether you qualify for something longer than 3-4 months so they often will attempt to see if the guy will disqualify himself so they don't waste anymore time.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yeah, that's true. It also reminds me how guys here seem to assume a girl is lying if she says she has a boyfriend. A LOT of girls have boyfriends. Now they might cheat on them, some of them very readily, but some actually try to be faithful. As for the period, I've done it before when I was so into the moment I didn't care, but generally speaking, I'd prefer to just wait it out.

Exactly. There was a recent Canadian hockey court case here involving several former junior players accused of sexually assaulting the same woman at the same time. The judge gave the prosecutors **** for trying to use “believe all women” as an argument, which undermines the whole concept of innocent until proven guilty, a cornerstone of justice. It’s not on the defence to prove they’re innocent; the burden is on the prosecution to prove guilt, and that was one of the main issues the judge pushed back on.

The same thing is involved here, just at the opposite end of the spectrum. Some guys seem to assume a woman is lying whenever she says she has a boyfriend, is busy, or is on her period. That’s just the reverse side of the same coin. Sometimes she’s lying, sometimes she’s telling the truth, but automatically assuming either one without evidence isn’t a rational way to evaluate the situation.

 

[zekko]

The judge gave the prosecutors **** for trying to use “believe all women” as an argument, which undermines the whole concept of innocent until proven guilty, a cornerstone of justice.

Yeah, funny how that works, isn't it? Thankfully, the "believe all women" fad seems to have passed, at least for most people.

 

[Solomon]

IMO the girl may not want to have sex on her period and I think it's smart as she is managing expectations. I honestly get grossed out when a girl I just started dating or haven't even met yet wants to have period sex. This is gross to me

IMO just go bowling play it cool how she responds AFTER this will tell you what you need to know

 

[Stuffnu]

Too much mind!
”No worries babe, a bowling ball has 3 holes”
Done

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Growing up with 2 sisters, being the only male staff member on a roster of about 15 and the exposure to women in the military (strange and different breed from them all) I'm more familiar with this than I perhaps should be. I digress.

I see it 4 ways when a woman says this. Two positive, two negative. For you, I'd skip straight to the positives because she's already had sex with you once and if she's going out with you again, she didn't hate it. That's good for you! Great, in fact in my opinion that she's even open to telling you.

Negatives first, it's either she's saying that in hopes you'll cancel so she doesn't need an excuse or she is just wanting to see how you react to her saying that. This could be the case whether or not she really IS on her period.

Positives here? She is trying to inform you just in case you hoped to have some fun and you are grossed out by it. OR, SHE is grossed out by the idea of intercourse while on her period or only has a few towels to go around (women use a LOT of towels). It's also possible that this is the FIRST TIME the subject of 'period sex' has come up and by her bringing it up she sees you as potential steady relationship material. Also a good thing for you. All in all, this is nothing to worry about.

Her communicating this to you in my opinion is a complete positive. If you hadn't slept with her yet, I'd be a bit more speculative.