girl said she's on her period before date

[zekko]

So, let's not just assume women are always "testing" us when they say this. They DO have periods.

Yeah, that's true. It also reminds me how guys here seem to assume a girl is lying if she says she has a boyfriend. A LOT of girls have boyfriends. Now they might cheat on them, some of them very readily, but some actually try to be faithful. As for the period, I've done it before when I was so into the moment I didn't care, but generally speaking, I'd prefer to just wait it out.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Dude... get real: WOMEN HAVE PERIODS.

Some women have short periods lasting 2-3 days, while others have periods lasting 8-9 days. Point is, at SOME point in you dating ANY woman, they will be on their period.

And, early on in the dating process, she's going to be VERY subconscious about sleeping with you when it's happening. You may be thinking "but it's no big deal, me want some now!"

SPOILER: it's a mood killer. I've slept with women who thought their period was done, or that it would be coming within a week, and then, in the middle of the festivities: SURPRISE!

Blood everywhere. Instand full stop. It's gross!

So, let's not just assume women are always "testing" us when they say this. They DO have periods. They STiLL want to feel like you'd want to spend time with them even if sex is temporarily off the table. More importantly, there's not enough of a pattern established of her blowing you off all the time for sex.

In context of the situation it lends itself very well to being a test and would be the exact setup where it would most likely occur. Again. Context is always key.

Either way, the same response is warranted. Meet up with her and make it seem like no big deal and just have fun.

 

[BPH]

This guy posted this a few hours before his date.

It's been 2 days. Just chill and let the guy update us.

 

[startingpoint]

I was thinking the same thing. I've had women warn me about their period starting the morning of when we were supposed to meet, and guess what, we ended up sleeping together anyway.

If you like her enough to enjoy her company with the possibility of no sex, then just go on the date. If the date goes well and if naturally gets physical, then move forward. If I were you, I would not push hard through any of her resistance. It comes off desperate and you risk turning her off more.

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I just let the date progress naturally and we ended up sleeping anyway, she initiated asking if wanted to go somewhere more private

@startingpoint , why are you having a public date on the 4th date when you've banged her already? It should either be at your place or hers.

we're both 18 living with parents that are more traditional and doesn't leave the house much.

In context of the situation it lends itself very well to being a test and would be the exact setup where it would most likely occur. Again. Context is always key.

im curious, why did this situation made it seem like it was a test to you?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

bang on
I just let the date progress naturally and we ended up sleeping anyway, she initiated asking if wanted to go somewhere more private


we're both 18 living with parents that are more traditional and doesn't leave the house much.


im curious, why did this situation made it seem like it was a test to you?

Relatively new relationship, first date after initial time you had sex.

The goal within the first few months for most women is to determine whether you qualify for something longer than 3-4 months so they often will attempt to see if the guy will disqualify himself so they don't waste anymore time.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Yeah, that's true. It also reminds me how guys here seem to assume a girl is lying if she says she has a boyfriend. A LOT of girls have boyfriends. Now they might cheat on them, some of them very readily, but some actually try to be faithful. As for the period, I've done it before when I was so into the moment I didn't care, but generally speaking, I'd prefer to just wait it out.

Exactly. There was a recent Canadian hockey court case here involving several former junior players accused of sexually assaulting the same woman at the same time. The judge gave the prosecutors **** for trying to use “believe all women” as an argument, which undermines the whole concept of innocent until proven guilty, a cornerstone of justice. It’s not on the defence to prove they’re innocent; the burden is on the prosecution to prove guilt, and that was one of the main issues the judge pushed back on.

The same thing is involved here, just at the opposite end of the spectrum. Some guys seem to assume a woman is lying whenever she says she has a boyfriend, is busy, or is on her period. That’s just the reverse side of the same coin. Sometimes she’s lying, sometimes she’s telling the truth, but automatically assuming either one without evidence isn’t a rational way to evaluate the situation.

 

[zekko]

The judge gave the prosecutors **** for trying to use “believe all women” as an argument, which undermines the whole concept of innocent until proven guilty, a cornerstone of justice.

Yeah, funny how that works, isn't it? Thankfully, the "believe all women" fad seems to have passed, at least for most people.