girl said she's on her period before date

[startingpoint]

Fourth date Bowling, last date ended in sex
I remember she said she was on birth control on the first date so idk if she's lying
Just texted me this 3 hours before the date
Her: I don't know what you're expecting for today, just so I don't disappoint you lol
Her: I'm on my period
Me: All good, were gonna have fun bowling anyway

Fml was looking forward to today, she ****s amazing
Should I try to get intimate anyway? idc if she's on her period, the only thing would be that she's uncomfortable thats why she sent the text
Is this low interest behaviour?
Would love to hear your thoughts.

 

[BPH]

Just let the date progress naturally, and be neither disappointed that it probably won't end in sex, nor push too hard to have sex anyway.

You might not care about having sex on a period, but SHE might.

Depending on your goals, this might communicate to her that you care about her beyond the sex. Nothing wrong with that, but if you have a casual relationship, seeing her when that isn't an option may give her mixed signals that you want more than that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This could also be a test to see if you are actually interested in her or just fvcking her so she can next you if it's the former before investing more time into you.

 

[remarkable]

This could also be a test to see if you are actually interested in her or just fvcking her so she can next you if it's the former before investing more time into you.

I was thinking the same thing. I've had women warn me about their period starting the morning of when we were supposed to meet, and guess what, we ended up sleeping together anyway.

If you like her enough to enjoy her company with the possibility of no sex, then just go on the date. If the date goes well and if naturally gets physical, then move forward. If I were you, I would not push hard through any of her resistance. It comes off desperate and you risk turning her off more.

 

[Foe]

Ive found girls generally only care if you care. There must be allot of guys out there who freak out and make a big deal about it which naturally puts the girls on edge. If your cool they are cool.

Up to you.

 

[zekko]

I would have sat her right down and said "Omigosh! Are you going to be all right to bowl?".

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Put her on the spot OP, ask her if she's expecting to be handling big balls on the bowling date.

Her response may be telling. bad response - she ignores. Neutral response - she responds with "ha!" or "lol". Good response "ya but I'm on my period.." which acknowledges she can still jerk you off or give a bj, which is appropriate since you've escalated to sex and she shouldn't want to push you away.

So since you had to wait two dates before getting any, let her subtly know the testing can go both ways.

Next time you run into this OP say "I don't mind" when she mentions she's on her period, that way you let her know you would like at least *something* since you've established a sexual relationship at this point. Don't give her the impression sex is unimportant to you since you've only banged her once and haven't established an ongoing sexual relationship yet. Two bangs seals the deal much more than one bang does.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I hate when they do shvt like this because it's so ambiguous. I personally don't really mind if she's on her period but I know some women genuinely do not like to have sex while they're on it. So it's often unclear how to handle it when it's brought up like this.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I hate when they do shvt like this because it's so ambiguous. I personally don't really mind if she's on her period but I know some women genuinely do not like to have sex while they're on it. So it's often unclear how to handle it when it's brought up like this.

It suggests she's not highly interested or on the fence. If she was highly interested she'd say something like "we can still cuddle though" rather than leaving things vague. The "lol" at the end of her revelation is itself revealing, if that's what she typed it can be interpreted as a laugh at his expense. Highly interested women wouldn't leave that open to interpretation.

 

[BPH]

It suggests she's not highly interested or on the fence. If she was highly interested she'd say something like "we can still cuddle though" rather than leaving things vague. The "lol" at the end of her revelation is itself revealing, if that's what she typed it can be interpreted as a laugh at his expense. Highly interested women wouldn't leave that open to interpretation.

I disagree.

I've had several women I was sleeping with phrase it the same way. The "lol" is to make light of the situation.

I wouldn't read too far into it.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I disagree.

I've had several women I was sleeping with phrase it the same way. The "lol" is to make light of the situation.

I wouldn't read too far into it.

He's not "sleeping" with her though, that hasn't been established yet as they've only banged once. Plus she made him wait 2 dates prior the to act. I've had women respond that way too, but only after an established thing or if we've banged once and they say this prior to coming over to my place, not for a public date.

This feels off. Like that one chick from your recent report who had second thoughts after sex on the first meet where it was "too much, too soon". OP and this girl had sex after the third meet, where she should know more of what he's about.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

@startingpoint , why are you having a public date on the 4th date when you've banged her already? It should either be at your place or hers.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I might get roasted for this, but here are two stories this reminds me of:

1. In my early 20s, when I was still living with my parents, a girl I was seeing invited me to hang out with her friends at an Irish bar. The plan was for her best friend to share a hotel room with her boyfriend, while she and I would share a room. We were going to grab dinner, go to the bar, head back to the hotel, and spend the night together.
   
   After getting my hopes up, especially since she had done something similar before with other guys, I was expecting a hardcore sexual marathon. However, after the bar, she got so drunk that she spent the entire night getting sick and puking, and nothing happened between us.
   
   In the days that followed, I let my disappointment get the better of me for 2 days straight, and ended up arguing with her about it. One argument led to another, we couldn't resolve things, the dynamic stopped being fun, and our "relationship" ended shortly afterward.
   
   
2. Last year, I was seeing a girl regularly. One Thursday afternoon, we were supposed to hang out when I got a text saying, "Hey, something came up. We might need to change plans." When I asked why, she replied, "You'll see."
   
   When I arrived, I found out she had a cold sore. So once again, I went from expecting a romantic evening to realizing that even kissing was off the table. We hung out at the mall, grabbed coffee, and spent time together, but it was a little awkward because we both knew the night wasn't going as originally planned, especially when we couldn't keep our hands off each other.
   
   I shrugged it off, and a few weeks later everything was back to normal and she made it back to me. We ended up seeing each other for about 8 more months before things eventually ended. I am still herpes free, and I made a post about it that barelly had any comments.

Either way, what I learned from those experiences is that sometimes you have to take one for the team if you want to keep seeing someone. Personally, I'm not ****ing a girl on her period, so I'd actually appreciate her managing expectations ahead of time rather than letting me find out later.

A period comes around roughly once every month, so I'd give her a pass since this is the first time that this happened. If this kind of thing starts becoming a recurring pattern with more excuses, then maybe there's something else going on. However, based on what you've written though, it sounds more like she's being considerate and trying to set expectations than showing low interest.

 

[Prepostereax]

Dark sheets in the guest bedroom.
Black satin has a bordello vibe

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Dark sheets in the guest bedroom.
Black satin has a bordello vibe

She's all up in my headroom
Don't know if I'll make it out alive

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Fourth date Bowling, last date ended in sex
I remember she said she was on birth control on the first date so idk if she's lying
Just texted me this 3 hours before the date
Her: I don't know what you're expecting for today, just so I don't disappoint you lol
Her: I'm on my period
Me: All good, were gonna have fun bowling anyway

Fml was looking forward to today, she ****s amazing
Should I try to get intimate anyway? idc if she's on her period, the only thing would be that she's uncomfortable thats why she sent the text
Is this low interest behaviour?
Would love to hear your thoughts.

Her period Isnt coming out of her mouth, and your d1ck Isnt going to suck itself.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I disagree.

I've had several women I was sleeping with phrase it the same way. The "lol" is to make light of the situation.

I wouldn't read too far into it.

IMO, it is almost always a test to see how the man will react and suss out of all he is in it for is the sex. At least in this specific scenario.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Dark sheets in the guest bedroom.
Black satin has a bordello vibe

Black velvet in that little boy's smile...