Went out with a girl tonight who i knew was attracted to me because she told a friend of mine. We went out. She said it didnt click. I have NEVER been told this and have been on a lot of dates. How should i take this? Is it me or is it circunstantial?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl said it didnt click
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Marvin Gaye
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Going to echo the guys here saying, be thankful she rejected you with grace. Like a a lady!! Man girls like that are so rare! How old are you OP?
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Like others have said, it's a polite rejection. You can't be everyone's type. It could be down to something as basic as not having the right things in common.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
justanothernormalguy
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You could of turned the tables on her, something like
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
Yep, I've done that before with almost the same wording and it has paid off a number of times.justanothernormalguy said:
Be prepared for a bit of a hostile response from some chicks, but that is usually a positive sign because it shows they care. But also expect to move on as it won't do anything if the spark just isn't there.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
thevilittletroll
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this is a very simple question to answer. she told your friend she thought you were a cute cuy (physical attraction). when you went on a date with her you didnt show her enough personality to keep her attracted to you. (emotional attraction) my guess is she thought you were boring. you need to work on your attraction skills "GAME". even good looking guys lose the girl if they have no game. girls will fall for a guy with a good personality 9 times out 10. so work on showing her more of your personality, and triggering her emotions for attraction. remember being good looking is not enough if she thinks you are boring.