Went out with a girl tonight who i knew was attracted to me because she told a friend of mine. We went out. She said it didnt click. I have NEVER been told this and have been on a lot of dates. How should i take this? Is it me or is it circunstantial?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Girl said it didnt click
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Marvin Gaye
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Going to echo the guys here saying, be thankful she rejected you with grace. Like a a lady!! Man girls like that are so rare! How old are you OP?
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Like others have said, it's a polite rejection. You can't be everyone's type. It could be down to something as basic as not having the right things in common.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
justanothernormalguy
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You could of turned the tables on her, something like
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
Yep, I've done that before with almost the same wording and it has paid off a number of times.justanothernormalguy said:
Be prepared for a bit of a hostile response from some chicks, but that is usually a positive sign because it shows they care. But also expect to move on as it won't do anything if the spark just isn't there.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
thevilittletroll
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this is a very simple question to answer. she told your friend she thought you were a cute cuy (physical attraction). when you went on a date with her you didnt show her enough personality to keep her attracted to you. (emotional attraction) my guess is she thought you were boring. you need to work on your attraction skills "GAME". even good looking guys lose the girl if they have no game. girls will fall for a guy with a good personality 9 times out 10. so work on showing her more of your personality, and triggering her emotions for attraction. remember being good looking is not enough if she thinks you are boring.