Went out with a girl tonight who i knew was attracted to me because she told a friend of mine. We went out. She said it didnt click. I have NEVER been told this and have been on a lot of dates. How should i take this? Is it me or is it circunstantial?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Girl said it didnt click
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Marvin Gaye
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Going to echo the guys here saying, be thankful she rejected you with grace. Like a a lady!! Man girls like that are so rare! How old are you OP?
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Like others have said, it's a polite rejection. You can't be everyone's type. It could be down to something as basic as not having the right things in common.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
justanothernormalguy
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You could of turned the tables on her, something like
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
Yep, I've done that before with almost the same wording and it has paid off a number of times.justanothernormalguy said:
Be prepared for a bit of a hostile response from some chicks, but that is usually a positive sign because it shows they care. But also expect to move on as it won't do anything if the spark just isn't there.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
thevilittletroll
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this is a very simple question to answer. she told your friend she thought you were a cute cuy (physical attraction). when you went on a date with her you didnt show her enough personality to keep her attracted to you. (emotional attraction) my guess is she thought you were boring. you need to work on your attraction skills "GAME". even good looking guys lose the girl if they have no game. girls will fall for a guy with a good personality 9 times out 10. so work on showing her more of your personality, and triggering her emotions for attraction. remember being good looking is not enough if she thinks you are boring.