Went out with a girl tonight who i knew was attracted to me because she told a friend of mine. We went out. She said it didnt click. I have NEVER been told this and have been on a lot of dates. How should i take this? Is it me or is it circunstantial?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girl said it didnt click
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Marvin Gaye
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Going to echo the guys here saying, be thankful she rejected you with grace. Like a a lady!! Man girls like that are so rare! How old are you OP?
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
Anyway you should ask her why, so you can amend yourself for the future
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Like others have said, it's a polite rejection. You can't be everyone's type. It could be down to something as basic as not having the right things in common.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
Everyone gets this, but be thankful she didn't lead you on, play with your head etc. I'm always grateful when a girl gets to the point like this.
justanothernormalguy
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You could of turned the tables on her, something like
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
'Yeah I think you are right, you are a very sweet girl and we had some fun but I don't see anything between us. Im glad we could be honest about this now, its unusual to find a girl like that'
Now her interest level has just gone up, that 'no click' is bull****. The only reason you didnt click was because her interest level wasnt high enough. You can be out on a date with a girl and say anything as long as their interest level is high enough.
Yep, I've done that before with almost the same wording and it has paid off a number of times.justanothernormalguy said:
Be prepared for a bit of a hostile response from some chicks, but that is usually a positive sign because it shows they care. But also expect to move on as it won't do anything if the spark just isn't there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
thevilittletroll
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this is a very simple question to answer. she told your friend she thought you were a cute cuy (physical attraction). when you went on a date with her you didnt show her enough personality to keep her attracted to you. (emotional attraction) my guess is she thought you were boring. you need to work on your attraction skills "GAME". even good looking guys lose the girl if they have no game. girls will fall for a guy with a good personality 9 times out 10. so work on showing her more of your personality, and triggering her emotions for attraction. remember being good looking is not enough if she thinks you are boring.