Tyrone Biggums
Don Juan
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Next her. A girl who sends mixed signals or confuses has low interest. Don't hang out with her anymore and find other chicks.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girl rejects my kiss yet still keeps wanting to go out
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I don't know about Nexting her quite yet. It may be an interesting experiment to continue hanging out with her; but on her dime. I say finding out if she's willing to pay for his company there may be some other interest. Either way, he'd either find out definitively if he's in the LJBF zone and/or get a couple of free meals out of it.Tyrone Biggums said:
Hey don't laugh, women do it all the time...
I would have laughed a few months ago, now i just silently nod my head
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I don't believe o'l boy is in friends zone yet because she's asking to hang out, so at the very least this girl thinks he MIGHT be an AFC but is willing to give more chances for whatever reasons... I liked the advice the oher guy gave, train her like a dog...
-Cod3r
MacDiddy
Master Don Juan
Make the Ho say No!!!
I believe she wants you bad... she just doesn't know it yet...
I believe she wants you bad... she just doesn't know it yet...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Tomatoes
Master Don Juan
When she said "Im not that kinda girl." I would have said "What kind of girl is that?"
If you macked her there and then you could have found out her intentions...
I got a feeling shes friendzoning.....however i think you should carry on for now. See where things go. Unless you have other options open at the moment.
Sarge On!
If you macked her there and then you could have found out her intentions...
I got a feeling shes friendzoning.....however i think you should carry on for now. See where things go. Unless you have other options open at the moment.
Sarge On!
BuckwildNYC
Senior Don Juan
EXACTLY:
HER: I'm not that kind of girl!
YOU: What kind of girl is that?
HER: Uh, uh, I just...... (cut her off)
YOU: Ya know I don't think I can date a girl who doesn't like to kiss. This isnt gonna work out. (Start to move away)
HER: Hey wait a sec. It's just that......... (cut her off again)
YOU: Nah, you're right, I guess we should just be friends. We're just not compatible......
At this point she's gonna be blown away. It's time for some serious ass-kissing on her part if she still truly wants to date you. I'm no super DJ but I've dealt with these situations before and you need to get her chasing after YOU. Walk away and if she chases you she's yours...........
HER: I'm not that kind of girl!
YOU: What kind of girl is that?
HER: Uh, uh, I just...... (cut her off)
YOU: Ya know I don't think I can date a girl who doesn't like to kiss. This isnt gonna work out. (Start to move away)
HER: Hey wait a sec. It's just that......... (cut her off again)
YOU: Nah, you're right, I guess we should just be friends. We're just not compatible......
At this point she's gonna be blown away. It's time for some serious ass-kissing on her part if she still truly wants to date you. I'm no super DJ but I've dealt with these situations before and you need to get her chasing after YOU. Walk away and if she chases you she's yours...........
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
:yes: to Buckwild and Francisco's suggestions.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
In a nutshell, take control of the situation yourself. Make her show her hand by calling her bluff. Make her put up or shut up.
I agree. But i wouldnt be so sure to next her so soon. You know what they say about relationships where you wait to lay the girl a month or so later?...exactly those are relationships.Francisco d'Anconia said:
You can say this is a similar scenario, some girls are more inexperienced/shy and prefer to go slowly. I recall once on date #1 with this girl i went for a kiss close, she wasnt ready and turned and all i got was her side lip. Date #2 i didnt bother...even after i got the same signs you did of her being interested. Date #3...makeout session baby.
patience can really pay off sometimes.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Screwit is right. I know one gal who was brought up really religious, but isn't any more, though still very inexperienced, who gets a bit closer at times, then backs way, way off. Like 2 steps forward, 1 step back, 2 more steps forward, 3 steps back, 3 steps forward, 3 steps back, etc. Flirts like mad over IM, skittish and inconsistent in person. I could see myself eventually getting involved with her, though it will take a long time for her to get to the point she trusts anyone enough. I just enjoy her company as a friend, continue to flirt and have fun with her, and if it happens someday, it happens someday.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
That's the difference though, you are satisfied with the friendship and -.- wasn't.Bonhomme said:
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
Having others in the mix -- or even doing things to bring others into the mix -- makes it easier.
But, to quote the great philosopher Yogi Berra: If the people don't want to come out to the ballpark; nobody's gonna stop them.
But, to quote the great philosopher Yogi Berra: If the people don't want to come out to the ballpark; nobody's gonna stop them.