"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl rejects my kiss yet still keeps wanting to go out

Tyrone Biggums

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Next her. A girl who sends mixed signals or confuses has low interest. Don't hang out with her anymore and find other chicks.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Tyrone Biggums said:
Next her. A girl who sends mixed signals or confuses has low interest. Don't hang out with her anymore and find other chicks.
I don't know about Nexting her quite yet. It may be an interesting experiment to continue hanging out with her; but on her dime. I say finding out if she's willing to pay for his company there may be some other interest. Either way, he'd either find out definitively if he's in the LJBF zone and/or get a couple of free meals out of it. :up:

Hey don't laugh, women do it all the time...
 

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Yes, do what Francisco says :) ^^

The worst thing you could do now is reward her by you asking her out again.
 

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Hey don't laugh, women do it all the time...
I would have laughed a few months ago, now i just silently nod my head

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I don't believe o'l boy is in friends zone yet because she's asking to hang out, so at the very least this girl thinks he MIGHT be an AFC but is willing to give more chances for whatever reasons... I liked the advice the oher guy gave, train her like a dog...


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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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When she said "Im not that kinda girl." I would have said "What kind of girl is that?"

If you macked her there and then you could have found out her intentions...

I got a feeling shes friendzoning.....however i think you should carry on for now. See where things go. Unless you have other options open at the moment.


Sarge On!
 

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EXACTLY:

HER: I'm not that kind of girl!
YOU: What kind of girl is that?
HER: Uh, uh, I just...... (cut her off)
YOU: Ya know I don't think I can date a girl who doesn't like to kiss. This isnt gonna work out. (Start to move away)
HER: Hey wait a sec. It's just that......... (cut her off again)
YOU: Nah, you're right, I guess we should just be friends. We're just not compatible......

At this point she's gonna be blown away. It's time for some serious ass-kissing on her part if she still truly wants to date you. I'm no super DJ but I've dealt with these situations before and you need to get her chasing after YOU. Walk away and if she chases you she's yours...........
 

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:yes: to Buckwild and Francisco's suggestions.
 

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In a nutshell, take control of the situation yourself. Make her show her hand by calling her bluff. Make her put up or shut up.
 

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
In a nutshell, take control of the situation yourself. Make her show her hand by calling her bluff. Make her put up or shut up.
I agree. But i wouldnt be so sure to next her so soon. You know what they say about relationships where you wait to lay the girl a month or so later?...exactly those are relationships.

You can say this is a similar scenario, some girls are more inexperienced/shy and prefer to go slowly. I recall once on date #1 with this girl i went for a kiss close, she wasnt ready and turned and all i got was her side lip. Date #2 i didnt bother...even after i got the same signs you did of her being interested. Date #3...makeout session baby.

patience can really pay off sometimes.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Screwit is right. I know one gal who was brought up really religious, but isn't any more, though still very inexperienced, who gets a bit closer at times, then backs way, way off. Like 2 steps forward, 1 step back, 2 more steps forward, 3 steps back, 3 steps forward, 3 steps back, etc. Flirts like mad over IM, skittish and inconsistent in person. I could see myself eventually getting involved with her, though it will take a long time for her to get to the point she trusts anyone enough. I just enjoy her company as a friend, continue to flirt and have fun with her, and if it happens someday, it happens someday.
 

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Bonhomme said:
... I just enjoy her company as a friend, continue to flirt and have fun with her, and if it happens someday, it happens someday.
That's the difference though, you are satisfied with the friendship and -.- wasn't.
 

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Having others in the mix -- or even doing things to bring others into the mix -- makes it easier.

But, to quote the great philosopher Yogi Berra: If the people don't want to come out to the ballpark; nobody's gonna stop them.
 

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I smell an AW.

It's just a KISS, come on... (unless the girl is ultra-conservative, in which case, have fun :p).
 
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