"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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girl put me in the friend zone..do i back off?

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she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."

do i back off and play it off as a friend or do i pursue, since she still has interest.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You play it calm, uninterested and friendly for a bit and see how things go. If you don't succeed you have succeeded in making a valuable friend, she has friends and other girls will see you with her which is great social proof

Keep a confident and sexual attitude
 
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Don't say anything. Just vanish. They love it when you disappear. Since they feel that they should be the ones who should vanish from your life. Why would you want a female friend? Unless you're gay.
 
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I'm with Trent on this one.

Back off. DONT be mean or cold,and PLEASE...DON'T START IGNORING HER.

DO NOT start ignoring her.


Don't go out of your way to speak to her either. If she speaks to you first,go ahead and talk with her,BUT keep the conversation short,and as much as possible...STAY OUT OF HER PRESENCE.

Jamesdl said:
she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."
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She in control here.

SHE SAID she wants to continue the relationship as friends..

SHE SAID if it gets serious,then you two can do "stuff like that".



So SHE decided you two are going to be friends,and SHE decided that under certain conditions,you two could do "stuff".




Well you posted what she'd decided and what she wants,but what about YOU?


You have any say so here,or are you just a passenger in YOUR OWN dating life?



Tell this chick to get lost...by your actions ONLY.


To be honest,I don't think you're in the friendzone.


Trust me,I KNOW what the friendzone is,and you don't seem to be there.

It just seems like her interest in low.



If I were you,I'd use the info in my signature.

It would seem to apply here.
 
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i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jiberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her duing the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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we've just been communicating thru text.
 
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Jamesdl said:
i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jibberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her during the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
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You caused her to do a 180 on you. You creeped her out. You lost your magic touch, but you can always disappear. Hey, you need to disappear here. It's for your own good.

BTW when you said she still has interest even though she friendzoned you, bear in mind that this is a paradox. AKA false hope. She will talk to you while drinking a 40 oz. bottle of someone else's semen.

But if her IL is low, read Igetit's response.
 
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