"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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girl put me in the friend zone..do i back off?

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she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."

do i back off and play it off as a friend or do i pursue, since she still has interest.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You play it calm, uninterested and friendly for a bit and see how things go. If you don't succeed you have succeeded in making a valuable friend, she has friends and other girls will see you with her which is great social proof

Keep a confident and sexual attitude
 
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Don't say anything. Just vanish. They love it when you disappear. Since they feel that they should be the ones who should vanish from your life. Why would you want a female friend? Unless you're gay.
 
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I'm with Trent on this one.

Back off. DONT be mean or cold,and PLEASE...DON'T START IGNORING HER.

DO NOT start ignoring her.


Don't go out of your way to speak to her either. If she speaks to you first,go ahead and talk with her,BUT keep the conversation short,and as much as possible...STAY OUT OF HER PRESENCE.

Jamesdl said:
she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."
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She in control here.

SHE SAID she wants to continue the relationship as friends..

SHE SAID if it gets serious,then you two can do "stuff like that".



So SHE decided you two are going to be friends,and SHE decided that under certain conditions,you two could do "stuff".




Well you posted what she'd decided and what she wants,but what about YOU?


You have any say so here,or are you just a passenger in YOUR OWN dating life?



Tell this chick to get lost...by your actions ONLY.


To be honest,I don't think you're in the friendzone.


Trust me,I KNOW what the friendzone is,and you don't seem to be there.

It just seems like her interest in low.



If I were you,I'd use the info in my signature.

It would seem to apply here.
 
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i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jiberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her duing the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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we've just been communicating thru text.
 
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Jamesdl said:
i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jibberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her during the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
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You caused her to do a 180 on you. You creeped her out. You lost your magic touch, but you can always disappear. Hey, you need to disappear here. It's for your own good.

BTW when you said she still has interest even though she friendzoned you, bear in mind that this is a paradox. AKA false hope. She will talk to you while drinking a 40 oz. bottle of someone else's semen.

But if her IL is low, read Igetit's response.
 
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