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girl put me in the friend zone..do i back off?

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she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."

do i back off and play it off as a friend or do i pursue, since she still has interest.
 

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You play it calm, uninterested and friendly for a bit and see how things go. If you don't succeed you have succeeded in making a valuable friend, she has friends and other girls will see you with her which is great social proof

Keep a confident and sexual attitude
 
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Don't say anything. Just vanish. They love it when you disappear. Since they feel that they should be the ones who should vanish from your life. Why would you want a female friend? Unless you're gay.
 
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I'm with Trent on this one.

Back off. DONT be mean or cold,and PLEASE...DON'T START IGNORING HER.

DO NOT start ignoring her.


Don't go out of your way to speak to her either. If she speaks to you first,go ahead and talk with her,BUT keep the conversation short,and as much as possible...STAY OUT OF HER PRESENCE.

Jamesdl said:
she said she want to "continue te relationship as friends, and if it gets serious then we can do "stuff like that"."
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She in control here.

SHE SAID she wants to continue the relationship as friends..

SHE SAID if it gets serious,then you two can do "stuff like that".



So SHE decided you two are going to be friends,and SHE decided that under certain conditions,you two could do "stuff".




Well you posted what she'd decided and what she wants,but what about YOU?


You have any say so here,or are you just a passenger in YOUR OWN dating life?



Tell this chick to get lost...by your actions ONLY.


To be honest,I don't think you're in the friendzone.


Trust me,I KNOW what the friendzone is,and you don't seem to be there.

It just seems like her interest in low.



If I were you,I'd use the info in my signature.

It would seem to apply here.
 
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i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jiberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her duing the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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we've just been communicating thru text.
 
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Jamesdl said:
i do want a relationship with her, but i sorta f up..i call her drunk one night talking jibberish..she gotten frightened, and did a 180 on me. other thing was i met her during the summer for 2 weeks and shes out of state..
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You caused her to do a 180 on you. You creeped her out. You lost your magic touch, but you can always disappear. Hey, you need to disappear here. It's for your own good.

BTW when you said she still has interest even though she friendzoned you, bear in mind that this is a paradox. AKA false hope. She will talk to you while drinking a 40 oz. bottle of someone else's semen.

But if her IL is low, read Igetit's response.
 
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