"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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mvp21

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theres this girl i like but i think she is putting me in the friend catergory today she comes up to me tellin me bout her bf blowin her off and how she wants to br4eak up with him for this other guy. how can i get it out of the friend catergory an into to the boyfriend catergory?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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undesputable

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there should be a dating FAQ and this question should be on there. search around youll find the answer, and by searching yoll probably find other bits of importat info
 

JH6

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first of all don't take any of that bull****.

You are putting yourself in the friend category by listening to her stories about other guys.

Here's what you should have done. When she asks your opinion or tells you about other guys you tell her that you don't care about those other guys, and that you should meet her sometime for dinner, and give her your number.
 

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^^

That's good advice. That's what you would know to do if you even read the DJ Bible AT ALL. There is a whole SECTION about this.

However, the above advice will only work if you have game- does she love to be around you, do you make her laugh, are you ****y and funny?

If not, you need to read the DJ Bible, develop these skills, and implement the technique outlined in another part of the Bible for leaving the Friend Zone, in which you are firmly entrenched.
 

mvp21

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yea i am defintely puttin the ****y funny on her i constanly bust her balls an make her laugh
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jerky Boi

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If she's already placed you into the friend's zone, it's going to be hard to come out, although it's not necessarily impossible, you need to be patient. You don't want to be rude when she tries to talk to you about other guys, I mean how can you blame her, you're just a friend to her right now?


But when she does do things like that, you need to kinda just act like you don't care and give her some one word answers and things should turn out fine in your favor.
 
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