Girl Poblems

[moto]

whats LTR?

 

[Grizou]

I suppose my way of minimizing drama with girls I'm seeing is to be upfront with my intentions and what I'm looking for right from the start. I'm honestly in it just to meet new girls, and I tell them exactly that. Hell, I don't even "date" anymore, I just "hangout". Sometimes I'll add that I'm not looking for a gf, as it seems many younger women are more into casual dating/hookups. I wouldn't call that part a lie, maybe just a stretch of the truth, because I'm qualifying them to see if they might be gf material.

I'm sort of looking for an LTR, but I've dated so many girls and I've only met a few that have really impressed me. My standards for a gf are high (cultured/sophisticated, intelligent, playful, confident, kindhearted, into the outdoors, and at least "cute"), but what can I say, I'm a catch. :woo:

However, I still believe drama is inevitable, expectations are created, emotions get involved, but it is what it is. Most of the rational, logical arguments you can make to justify your actions or even the situation as a whole are thrown out the window in a fight, as logic holds no weight in an emotionally charged conflict. But you can at least be content with yourself and your choices, if you are trying to live the good life, as I am.

If you tell are girl you just want to be casual (with her) you can say that you never "used" her "just for sex" when she tries to play that card ("honey baby, you know you got more out of it than I did...")

And if you're telling them that you're seeing other girls (which you should be), then they can't really get upset if they find out that you're seeing other girls later, even if there was no understanding that there was some sort of exclusivity or whatever...

I think it's always important to try to get a bearing on whatever girl you're dating, you know, so you don't treat a sophisticated girl like a ho, and don't treat a ho as a sophisticated girl.

As for the big brothers... you either need to hone in on your DONG-FOO or just buy a stun-gun or a pistol. :trouble:

For me, the only drama I'm involved right now is rather minor, two of the girls I'm seeing now seem to have low confidence or something, who both act all shy, unpredictable, flaky, and generally just squirrelly. It's fucking annoying.

That post turned out a lot longer than originally intended.

TIGER VAULT, GOAT BREATH!

I agree from the first 'til the last word, totally! Couldn't have said it better I even experienced the same problem with low confidence girls during the past few weeks. But what i further experienced is that to be straight forward and telling your casual ladies that you are seeing other girls too, doesn't necessarily have bad consequences. Depending on the girl (of course), their ego needs a bit of competition and they might start to pursue getting you for themselves even more. I reckon this only works when you're seeing a girl casually and you built up such a high value of yourself, that you are entirely sure she's "lucky to have you", which of course all women are
The question is if that is what you want. The women that are easy to fall for that scheme are in my case not really my dreamgirls, yet they're good for a ... once in a while. I might be annoying having a girl chasing you even stronger, if you're not really into her (physically as mentally).

 

[JDA70]

"I'm currently dating, but I'm not in a committed relationship."

Leave out the bit about a couple of people.

Dongfu what in a LTR are you looking for?

You said you wanted total freedom.
Are you affraid of commitment because you may
fall of the path?

BTW if you haven't you should check out Carlos Xuma's
The Dating Black Book.

 

[Dongfu]

Leave out the bit about a couple of people.

Dongfu what in a LTR are you looking for?

You said you wanted total freedom.
Are you affraid of commitment because you may
fall of the path?

BTW if you haven't you should check out Carlos Xuma's
The Dating Black Book.

I dont think this was my quote you quoted. But to answer your question, I think my standards are so high for someone I would consider to have an LTR with, that it is very unlikely I will meet her, at least not in this country. So for now, all I can do is connect with women on a casual basis and see how far it goes, which is usually not very far. My problem is that I treat women so well in bed that they quickly become addicted, and even when there is not much other connection, they still stalk me for sex.

 

[Dongfu]

whats LTR?

long term relationship

 

[Last Man Standing]

Good women are not boring and don't bring drama! Find a good woman!

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

Move to Cancun and just f*ck the tourists. Then they go home, and -PRESTO!- no drama.

 

[Maxtro]

1) Girls want to much of your time and eventually you'll have too many girls to rotate through the week along with work, school, etc.

Wow, what a.....problem to have. I'd rather have too little time because girls want all of it than to have too much time and not a girl in my life.

I have had some women in my life, and they naturally bring drama, thats just how they work. But as long as the bring some benefit with them, then you are truly living. At least thats what I think. My opinion may change once I actually see a girl more than once a week.

 

[xdreamz]

in the morning before i drift off, why do i see visions in my mind of me living inside my oneitis' life in first person view? visuals of a boyfriend before me, and poetic images i said about her?

when i pray at night, why do i hear her voice comforting me?

 

[aliasguy]

in the morning before i drift off, why do i see visions in my mind of me living inside my oneitis' life in first person view? visuals of a boyfriend before me, and poetic images i said about her?

when i pray at night, why do i hear her voice comforting me?

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REALLY? WOW.

I had a dream last week about a couple of exes. It was erotic, luscious, and cool. It was sweet, lovely, comforting, nice, hot, and COOL.

But it WASN'T REAL.
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[xdreamz]

no one's going to believe me...

yea these visions were not from my dreams. i was too awake to be dreaming... they came from somewhere else. it clouded my vision and formed into images. i was kind of anxious at first but they were cool, and no i don't use drugs.

 

[Dongfu]

Move to Cancun and just f*ck the tourists. Then they go home, and -PRESTO!- no drama.

this is basically what I do in Hawaii