"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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I agree from the first 'til the last word, totally! Couldn't have said it betterSerialized3 said:
I even experienced the same problem with low confidence girls during the past few weeks. But what i further experienced is that to be straight forward and telling your casual ladies that you are seeing other girls too, doesn't necessarily have bad consequences. Depending on the girl (of course), their ego needs a bit of competition and they might start to pursue getting you for themselves even more. I reckon this only works when you're seeing a girl casually and you built up such a high value of yourself, that you are entirely sure she's "lucky to have you", which of course all women are The question is if that is what you want. The women that are easy to fall for that scheme are in my case not really my dreamgirls, yet they're good for a ... once in a while. I might be annoying having a girl chasing you even stronger, if you're not really into her (physically as mentally).
Leave out the bit about a couple of people.
Dongfu what in a LTR are you looking for?
You said you wanted total freedom.
Are you affraid of commitment because you may
fall of the path?
BTW if you haven't you should check out Carlos Xuma's
The Dating Black Book.
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I dont think this was my quote you quoted. But to answer your question, I think my standards are so high for someone I would consider to have an LTR with, that it is very unlikely I will meet her, at least not in this country. So for now, all I can do is connect with women on a casual basis and see how far it goes, which is usually not very far. My problem is that I treat women so well in bed that they quickly become addicted, and even when there is not much other connection, they still stalk me for sex.JDA70 said:
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long term relationshipmoto said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Wow, what a.....problem to have. I'd rather have too little time because girls want all of it than to have too much time and not a girl in my life.Rex Man said:
I have had some women in my life, and they naturally bring drama, thats just how they work. But as long as the bring some benefit with them, then you are truly living. At least thats what I think. My opinion may change once I actually see a girl more than once a week.
when i pray at night, why do i hear her voice comforting me?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
yea these visions were not from my dreams. i was too awake to be dreaming... they came from somewhere else. it clouded my vision and formed into images. i was kind of anxious at first but they were cool, and no i don't use drugs.
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this is basically what I do in HawaiiGiovanni Casanova said: