I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Women don't talk about other men because they're dumb, that label is reserved for the guy who actually sits there and listens to it.AttackFormation said:
Big red flag if she badmouths all of her ex's. This one cheated on me, this one treated me poorly, this one was still in love with his ex, etc. They fail to realize two thingsAttackFormation said:
Not in all cases. Some women do it on purpose, others are just so clueless and dumb that they don't know better, just like someone who can't read basic social cues. They don't think (intelligently) before speaking and will mention their exes in conversations because they happen to think of them in the moment for whatever reason. I agree that you shouldn't be a chump and take it but not every single thing is only about reflecting back on a man's game... you have to hold them responsible for their own actions.G_Govan said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can't even worry about this one. I wouldn't worry about her unless you are going over there or she is coming over to your place. A movie night with a drink to "chill"... And if she turns you down to make out and approach sex, you gotta cut her loose.pyros said: