"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I was on Facebook today and looked over at my "People you may know" and saw this gorgeous girl that I have 6 friends in common with. Sent her a friend request, she accepted shortly after.

I haven't done anything yet, figured it was best not to jump in for two reasons. First, don't want to look too eager, and second, I wanted to get some opinions here first.

I usually stick to meeting girls in person, but this girl is gorgeous so I felt I had to try. :)

Would anyone mind telling me how to go about talking to her? I was thinking exchange some messages, get her number, ask to hang out eventually. But I don't know what to say.

If anyone could tell me what the best way to initiate a conversation with her is, as I don't have experience with this kind of thing, it'd be much appreciated. Thanks ahead of time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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go to her profile and like most not all of the same interests and movies and ****.... She will see it and no u two have something in common. Also u can say u were updating yur prof and her name kept popping up on the blah blah and x amount of ppl like this too.
 
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justkyle said:
go to her profile and like most not all of the same interests and movies and ****.... She will see it and no u two have something in common. Also u can say u were updating yur prof and her name kept popping up on the blah blah and x amount of ppl like this too.
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The thing is that her profile is pretty bare bones. She doesn't 'like' a lot of things that I can see, she mostly posts on other people's pages.

All I know so far is she is a dancer, on the school dance team I believe.
 
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simple as pie. Send her a message and simply say you want to learn how to dance. Yo always wanted to..... Now your gonna. Tell her you will pay her 150 dollars. She will prolly bite @ this. If not. Sell it. After she bites simply set up your first meeting to get to know each other first. Then set up meetings throuout time pref close together. U oay her at the end. Bam meeting and mad kino. Work from there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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MrP said:
Ask if you know each other. What classes are you in. Do you know so and so? Seriously, this is easy.
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I went with this, figured I'll keep it simple. Thanks for the help guys. I'll update when/if she replies.
 
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So I messaged her on Wednesday, she replied about an hour later. We exchanged a few messages and then she just stopped talking. What now? I want to try again before I forget about her.
 
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one she is not interested. Two..... You blew ur chance to try it my way brah. Which has never yet failed me.
 
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one she is not interested. Two..... You blew ur chance to try it my way brah. Which has never yet failed me.
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It evened out though. This other girl added me and I had a conversation with her that ended with her giving me her number and her saying "You should text me." Go figure. Thanks for the help man, much appreciated. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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