"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Got chatting with this girl over facebook, seems to be going quite well, playing her hot and cold, and she seems interested.
It's just that the conversation seems to run a bit dry at times as its over instant messaging rather than in person.
It's still a bit early to ask her out, any tips on how to keep the conversation flowing freely?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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styleman said:
Got chatting with this girl over facebook, seems to be going quite well, playing her hot and cold, and she seems interested.
It's just that the conversation seems to run a bit dry at times as its over instant messaging rather than in person.
It's still a bit early to ask her out, any tips on how to keep the conversation flowing freely?
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You should probably try to keep online communication short. I know it's difficult, but a great time to cut it short is when she's enjoying herself most. Tell her that you need to go and meet some friends, were called in to work, whatever. The important part is that you leave her wanting more, which'll raise her interest level.

Save the longer conversations for once you meet in person (which you should ask to do sooner rather than later).
 
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Why not just say "Chatting online is ok - I'd rather talk in person though - we should get together for a drink/coffee"

If it's just some girl on Facebook why not roll the dice? If you're going to meet at a public place what's the big deal?
 
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Yeah, always meet someone in a public place but set conditions... keep in short in case she doesn't meet your expectations...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Well sure, but its really far too early to ask her out.
Randomly added her due to a few mutual friends, just chatted with her once...
What are good things to talk about??
 
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styleman said:
Well sure, but its really far too early to ask her out.
Randomly added her due to a few mutual friends, just chatted with her once...
What are good things to talk about??
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Her.

Always her.

If the topic of conversation moves away from her onto you; reflect it back at her.
 
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