"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ElStud

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Alright couple days ago, I messaged this chick who was friends, with a dude that I used to be best friends with. The convo so far has gone like this:

Hey, do you know [friend?]

Her: yeah.

Me: How do you know him, were you like together?

Her: No, I know him through [another mutual friend].

Me: Cool. Yeah I know [another mutual friend]. He's one of my dudes. We go clubbing all the time. We party hard lol. Do you party?

Her: Well, duh.

Me: Awesome. Maybe you and my friends could go out clubbing together. Still don't know if you're cool enough. What's stands out about you?

Her: A lot I guess, you'll just have to find out for yourself.
Of course, this isn't EXACTLY how the convo went, which is intentional, but yeah.

Should I start trying to get some rapport going or something?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It is the mighty El Stud again bragging to sosuave about his conquests with his alpha male dudes so they can have more MMF threesomes.

So, you trying to get another girl hooked up with your friend so you can have sloppy seconds again?
 

ElStud

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corrector said:
It is the mighty El Stud again bragging to sosuave about his conquests with his alpha male dudes so they can have more MMF threesomes.

So, you trying to get another girl hooked up with your friend so you can have sloppy seconds again?
Haha. If this was two years ago I might be mad at you.

But right now, I'm just going to laugh.

It's called social proof. Maybe you've heard of it, telling a girl about your friends so she knows you're not anti-social?
 

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He's one of my dudes. We go clubbing all the time. We party hard lol
Make an appearance at the club with your entourage and SHOW her you like to party.
Telling her means nothing, let her see you and the boys in ACTION
 

corrector

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ElStud said:
Haha. If this was two years ago I might be mad at you.

But right now, I'm just going to laugh.

It's called social proof. Maybe you've heard of it, telling a girl about your friends so she knows you're not anti-social?
Social proof means you have other HOT attractive women that are vying for your attention, not other dudes - that is just gay. Social proof means if you don't get her, you have another girl to replace her, not another guy.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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corrector said:
Social proof means you have other HOT attractive women that are vying for your attention, not other dudes - that is just gay. Social proof means if you don't get her, you have another girl to replace her, not another guy.
Nah, social proof just means you have a lot of friends and are well-entrenched in social circles. As far as I'm concerned that's girls and guys.

Having other hot girls vying for your attention is more like pre-selection.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Your conversation is very vanilla, but that happens during first convos I suppose. I suggest you reply with "Like what?" to her last response.
 
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