"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alright couple days ago, I messaged this chick who was friends, with a dude that I used to be best friends with. The convo so far has gone like this:

Hey, do you know [friend?]

Her: yeah.

Me: How do you know him, were you like together?

Her: No, I know him through [another mutual friend].

Me: Cool. Yeah I know [another mutual friend]. He's one of my dudes. We go clubbing all the time. We party hard lol. Do you party?

Her: Well, duh.

Me: Awesome. Maybe you and my friends could go out clubbing together. Still don't know if you're cool enough. What's stands out about you?

Her: A lot I guess, you'll just have to find out for yourself.
Of course, this isn't EXACTLY how the convo went, which is intentional, but yeah.

Should I start trying to get some rapport going or something?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It is the mighty El Stud again bragging to sosuave about his conquests with his alpha male dudes so they can have more MMF threesomes.

So, you trying to get another girl hooked up with your friend so you can have sloppy seconds again?
 

ElStud

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corrector said:
It is the mighty El Stud again bragging to sosuave about his conquests with his alpha male dudes so they can have more MMF threesomes.

So, you trying to get another girl hooked up with your friend so you can have sloppy seconds again?
Haha. If this was two years ago I might be mad at you.

But right now, I'm just going to laugh.

It's called social proof. Maybe you've heard of it, telling a girl about your friends so she knows you're not anti-social?
 

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He's one of my dudes. We go clubbing all the time. We party hard lol
Make an appearance at the club with your entourage and SHOW her you like to party.
Telling her means nothing, let her see you and the boys in ACTION
 

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ElStud said:
Haha. If this was two years ago I might be mad at you.

But right now, I'm just going to laugh.

It's called social proof. Maybe you've heard of it, telling a girl about your friends so she knows you're not anti-social?
Social proof means you have other HOT attractive women that are vying for your attention, not other dudes - that is just gay. Social proof means if you don't get her, you have another girl to replace her, not another guy.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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corrector said:
Social proof means you have other HOT attractive women that are vying for your attention, not other dudes - that is just gay. Social proof means if you don't get her, you have another girl to replace her, not another guy.
Nah, social proof just means you have a lot of friends and are well-entrenched in social circles. As far as I'm concerned that's girls and guys.

Having other hot girls vying for your attention is more like pre-selection.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Your conversation is very vanilla, but that happens during first convos I suppose. I suggest you reply with "Like what?" to her last response.
 
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