So there's this girl I've just known, we met once and got along well. One interesting thing I notice is that when I response late to her text, she (almost) always replies with the same interval. And when I respond quickly, she responds quickly too. Do you think this is a sign of interest? Because surely if she sees me as just another guy she wouldn't give any care to the interval of her replies?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Girl matching text response time as mine: sign of interest?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HeadLightsOn
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I believe she knows the game you're playing and is letting you know that. Then she is playing the game back at you. Interesting conundrum I suppose. It would be fun to see what her response is if you fired off several quick, needy texts. I used that method once when I was trying to get rid of a hassle woman. It worked. She got 'tired' of me after a short time and I never heard from her again.
Not saying that is what you're trying to achieve here.
Not saying that is what you're trying to achieve here.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MOTU
Master Don Juan
She read "The Rules".
DragonBlood
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She did read the rules.MOTU said:
This happened to me with a girl that would always text exactly 20mins after I would text her.... taking hours and hours to set a date up.
When I finally got her out, I physically escalated and had her aroused, to the point she was all over the road on the way home and couldnt think straight. It was on. But for some reason no matter how many times I tried to kiss her she would pull back. So I just asked why... ?
"No kissing on the first date"
LOL
Things spiraled down from there as she began over analyzing every text I sent.