"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl leaving. Help / advice needed

BeLoSH

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MEN. Long time gamer, I only post on here these days if i have an issue, so here goes.

So i started seeing this chick towards the middle of August. We've been in contact with each other, non-stop since then. Often seeing each other 2/3 times a week.

Everything is fcking great.

BUT......

She recently dropped the bombshell that she's leaving for school. It was mentioned a couple of times in the past, all but brief, but now it's official.
She'll be gone for 2 years.

She now wants to ease up as she could be gone as soon as February or even January, however no later than April.
She's made her mind up and she's going.

I have a history of bad onetitis which i think is making things 10x worse.




My question is this. Do you think it's best if i just stop seeing her now or continue to do so until she leaves?

Head is up my backside over this one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Purefilth

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I was with a girl who had to leave, I left her, then went back to her all before she left.

Make the most of the time you have, but hold back from getting too close, you've only been with her a couple of months so hopefully you'll have enough self control to take it for what it is - a bit of winter lovin'
 

Greasy Pig

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My last LTR decided to move to London but we decided to keep seeing each other for the last three months or so before she left.
I didn't really care that she was leaving (it was actually a good thing) so we just had fun, had a teary goodbye and she left.
It was probably the best three months of the whole year-long relationship.
 

GotED?

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May I remind you of one of the most important point of being a DJ and from this forum is:

REMAIN EMOTIONALLY DETACHED ALWAYS!!!!!


Focus on that and you will be carried through any storm that women/girls throw at you unexpectedly and not fall into the trenches of AFC graves.

With respect,

Exodus
 
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