"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Girl just broke up with boyfriend
- Thread starter aWolf
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Uncharted
Master Don Juan
You treat her like any other girl. Do you have her number? Call her up and ask her out. If she's interested then she'll go out. If not, then move on.
If she broke up with him then she's ready for someone else (or has possibly already found him). If he broke up with her it will be harder.
Either way you will not know unless you try.
At least put some effort into your thread....aWolf said:
There isn't, she either will or she won't. There isn't a list of tricks you can use. Sounds to me that you're too focused on one individual girl. Snap out of this delusional way of thinking. Get out there, improve yourself, and meet some other girl.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
However, I have managed several times to let a girl go on and on about her recent ex, and then ended up fvcking her. It works as long as you make sure to immediately steer the direction of the relationship toward being physical. She can bawl on my shoulder all she wants, as long as my hand is slowly working its way up her thigh...
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
This is true. I think the advice on here is to meant to not let girls go on and on and treat you like a girlfriend. You need to make sure she knows that you want a physical relationship (male/lover) and not an emotional one (female/friend). You do this by PHYSICALLY escalating - fearlessly and without apology.Bible_Belt said:
If you think you can't handle this - the best thing to say when she bring up her boyfriend is something like "that sounds like sad talk - let's go have some fun". Then do something exciting - isolate and escalate.