I've hooked up with her already, but every time I've suggested we just chill at my place she counters saying it's better if we went out, suggesting things like coffee, movies, other date like activities. I've not hooked up with her again after the first night, apparently she wanted to get to know me before sleeping with me again. Only problem is while she's a cool girl I don't see her becoming a LTR. But that's not my question, my question is what is the best way to get her to agree to being alone with me in private? I hate spending $$$ right now, and frankly I'd just prefer to hang out at home watching movies or something. Thanks.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Girl I've hooked up with before only wants to do things where we won't have sex
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ridingthelightning
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Tell her you're just gonna hang out at home and she can join if she wants. If she doesn't then forget it. You banged her once, and if she isn't going for the 2nd time then get over it and move on to the next.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
She's testing to see if you want more than sex and doesn't seem to be willing to be only about sex. Decide on what level you want to see her,then decide if it's worth it.
Bah, went out with this girl again. Had fun when we were out, and we make out a bit in front of my place in her car (she gave me a lift home). I suggest we go inside and she hesitates, finally saying no and that it was late. She does try to make plans for us to get together again soon but I don't know if I should go out with her again. Any suggestions guys?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
She sees you as a potential LTR, while you don't. The fact is you skipped the comfort stage with her, and jumped right into seduction stage, referring to the A.C.S rule. Hence, she wants to take it slow. Either you take it slow and get to know her a little better, or lose her, as she probably won't have sex with you again.
BananaSmile
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whats LTR and the acs rule?
eaglez1177
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Its all up to what you want man.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.