I've hooked up with her already, but every time I've suggested we just chill at my place she counters saying it's better if we went out, suggesting things like coffee, movies, other date like activities. I've not hooked up with her again after the first night, apparently she wanted to get to know me before sleeping with me again. Only problem is while she's a cool girl I don't see her becoming a LTR. But that's not my question, my question is what is the best way to get her to agree to being alone with me in private? I hate spending $$$ right now, and frankly I'd just prefer to hang out at home watching movies or something. Thanks.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl I've hooked up with before only wants to do things where we won't have sex
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Ridingthelightning
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Tell her you're just gonna hang out at home and she can join if she wants. If she doesn't then forget it. You banged her once, and if she isn't going for the 2nd time then get over it and move on to the next.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
She's testing to see if you want more than sex and doesn't seem to be willing to be only about sex. Decide on what level you want to see her,then decide if it's worth it.
Bah, went out with this girl again. Had fun when we were out, and we make out a bit in front of my place in her car (she gave me a lift home). I suggest we go inside and she hesitates, finally saying no and that it was late. She does try to make plans for us to get together again soon but I don't know if I should go out with her again. Any suggestions guys?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
She sees you as a potential LTR, while you don't. The fact is you skipped the comfort stage with her, and jumped right into seduction stage, referring to the A.C.S rule. Hence, she wants to take it slow. Either you take it slow and get to know her a little better, or lose her, as she probably won't have sex with you again.
BananaSmile
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whats LTR and the acs rule?
eaglez1177
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Its all up to what you want man.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.