I've hooked up with her already, but every time I've suggested we just chill at my place she counters saying it's better if we went out, suggesting things like coffee, movies, other date like activities. I've not hooked up with her again after the first night, apparently she wanted to get to know me before sleeping with me again. Only problem is while she's a cool girl I don't see her becoming a LTR. But that's not my question, my question is what is the best way to get her to agree to being alone with me in private? I hate spending $$$ right now, and frankly I'd just prefer to hang out at home watching movies or something. Thanks.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Girl I've hooked up with before only wants to do things where we won't have sex
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ridingthelightning
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Tell her you're just gonna hang out at home and she can join if she wants. If she doesn't then forget it. You banged her once, and if she isn't going for the 2nd time then get over it and move on to the next.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
She's testing to see if you want more than sex and doesn't seem to be willing to be only about sex. Decide on what level you want to see her,then decide if it's worth it.
Bah, went out with this girl again. Had fun when we were out, and we make out a bit in front of my place in her car (she gave me a lift home). I suggest we go inside and she hesitates, finally saying no and that it was late. She does try to make plans for us to get together again soon but I don't know if I should go out with her again. Any suggestions guys?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
playerone
Senior Don Juan
She sees you as a potential LTR, while you don't. The fact is you skipped the comfort stage with her, and jumped right into seduction stage, referring to the A.C.S rule. Hence, she wants to take it slow. Either you take it slow and get to know her a little better, or lose her, as she probably won't have sex with you again.
BananaSmile
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whats LTR and the acs rule?
eaglez1177
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Its all up to what you want man.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.
Do you wanna just bang this chick and not get into a relationship?
Or do you wanna take it slow and get into a relationship?
Your choice. If you choose the first one, just follow ridethelightning's advice.