Girl I've been dating tells me she wants to hangout with another guy..

[gimmeyofonenumba]

okay, I've been dating this girl for a few weeks now. We both got out of relationships, and wanted to have fun, but not commit to anything serious yet. Weeks ago, I told her I was going to be looking to date other girls as well, just didnt wanna go exclusive yet, I know she didnt take this real well, but she agreed. Anyways, today she tells me she met another guy and wants to hangout with him. I was pretty pissed off when she told me, but I agreed and told her I'd be fine with it, just as long as he's kept out of our relationship. She still says she really wants to hangout with me, and likes me,etc. It is still pissing me off, what should i do? Im really thinking if this is some kinda ploy of her to make me go exclusive

 

[KarmaSutra]

You do what you say you're going to do, see other girls and not be exclusive. Never tell a woman something you don't have full intent on following through with.

Unless you did it to cause her to have misplaced feelings for you? In that case you've told her you're truly into supplicating and your word means nothing.

 

[jigga23]

what do you expect? you said you dont want anythign exclusive so shes acting on it. its your fault

 

[intheRed]

i agree with everything that's been said thus far. i had a similar situation once and she did follow through, but so did i. you can't have a double standard like that once you talked to her about it. the best thing you can do is not attach yourself too much to her, and if you have, start the de-attachment process asap.

 

[gimmeyofonenumba]

alright appreciate the advice guys!

 

[Juan_Man]

She might be trying to make you jealous so that you will commit to her. Be cool and keep seeing other girls. Don't jump into a relationship out of fear that some other guy will take the girl away from you. If you don't feel strongly about committing, then don't do it. Keep seeing other girls.

 

[DonGorgon]

Yeh and so what ... she is a ho and you should be a player... its 2008 very few people want to F only 1 person for more then 2 weeks..

 

[Mavrick]

Well, you are getting mad at her for doing the same exact thing you wanted to do. That's a double standard, and getting mad at her was very chumpish on your part. You shouldn't care. You're the one to be had, not her. If she wants to date other, then you date MORE. You accept what is, make a plan of action, and you go through with it. You've let her have control of your emotions, and you've handed your power over.

Now to get it back is to see MORE women. Don't flaunt it in her face, but be truthful if she asks. You are the source of fun and value in the relationship, not her. It's her loss if she goes along with some other dude.

 

[comic_relief]

If you said something follow through on it. I know that I am and it will cost me $15,000 because of what I said I would do (live with one of my best friends and stay at the university that i am currently at).

At least now, I can get my philosophy degree.

Also, when you say you are going to do something then do it.

comic_relief

 

[New2Town]

So you want your cake and you want to eat it too. Double standard is great.

 

[sav]

double standards are great....