"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Girl I've been dating tells me she wants to hangout with another guy..

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gimmeyofonenumba

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okay, I've been dating this girl for a few weeks now. We both got out of relationships, and wanted to have fun, but not commit to anything serious yet. Weeks ago, I told her I was going to be looking to date other girls as well, just didnt wanna go exclusive yet, I know she didnt take this real well, but she agreed. Anyways, today she tells me she met another guy and wants to hangout with him. I was pretty pissed off when she told me, but I agreed and told her I'd be fine with it, just as long as he's kept out of our relationship. She still says she really wants to hangout with me, and likes me,etc. It is still pissing me off, what should i do? Im really thinking if this is some kinda ploy of her to make me go exclusive
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You do what you say you're going to do, see other girls and not be exclusive. Never tell a woman something you don't have full intent on following through with.

Unless you did it to cause her to have misplaced feelings for you? In that case you've told her you're truly into supplicating and your word means nothing.
 
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what do you expect? you said you dont want anythign exclusive so shes acting on it. its your fault
 
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i agree with everything that's been said thus far. i had a similar situation once and she did follow through, but so did i. you can't have a double standard like that once you talked to her about it. the best thing you can do is not attach yourself too much to her, and if you have, start the de-attachment process asap.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She might be trying to make you jealous so that you will commit to her. Be cool and keep seeing other girls. Don't jump into a relationship out of fear that some other guy will take the girl away from you. If you don't feel strongly about committing, then don't do it. Keep seeing other girls.
 
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Well, you are getting mad at her for doing the same exact thing you wanted to do. That's a double standard, and getting mad at her was very chumpish on your part. You shouldn't care. You're the one to be had, not her. If she wants to date other, then you date MORE. You accept what is, make a plan of action, and you go through with it. You've let her have control of your emotions, and you've handed your power over.

Now to get it back is to see MORE women. Don't flaunt it in her face, but be truthful if she asks. You are the source of fun and value in the relationship, not her. It's her loss if she goes along with some other dude.
 
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If you said something follow through on it. I know that I am and it will cost me $15,000 because of what I said I would do (live with one of my best friends and stay at the university that i am currently at).

At least now, I can get my philosophy degree.

Also, when you say you are going to do something then do it.

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So you want your cake and you want to eat it too. Double standard is great.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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