"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl I've been dating tells me she wants to hangout with another guy..

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okay, I've been dating this girl for a few weeks now. We both got out of relationships, and wanted to have fun, but not commit to anything serious yet. Weeks ago, I told her I was going to be looking to date other girls as well, just didnt wanna go exclusive yet, I know she didnt take this real well, but she agreed. Anyways, today she tells me she met another guy and wants to hangout with him. I was pretty pissed off when she told me, but I agreed and told her I'd be fine with it, just as long as he's kept out of our relationship. She still says she really wants to hangout with me, and likes me,etc. It is still pissing me off, what should i do? Im really thinking if this is some kinda ploy of her to make me go exclusive
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You do what you say you're going to do, see other girls and not be exclusive. Never tell a woman something you don't have full intent on following through with.

Unless you did it to cause her to have misplaced feelings for you? In that case you've told her you're truly into supplicating and your word means nothing.
 
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what do you expect? you said you dont want anythign exclusive so shes acting on it. its your fault
 
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i agree with everything that's been said thus far. i had a similar situation once and she did follow through, but so did i. you can't have a double standard like that once you talked to her about it. the best thing you can do is not attach yourself too much to her, and if you have, start the de-attachment process asap.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She might be trying to make you jealous so that you will commit to her. Be cool and keep seeing other girls. Don't jump into a relationship out of fear that some other guy will take the girl away from you. If you don't feel strongly about committing, then don't do it. Keep seeing other girls.
 
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Well, you are getting mad at her for doing the same exact thing you wanted to do. That's a double standard, and getting mad at her was very chumpish on your part. You shouldn't care. You're the one to be had, not her. If she wants to date other, then you date MORE. You accept what is, make a plan of action, and you go through with it. You've let her have control of your emotions, and you've handed your power over.

Now to get it back is to see MORE women. Don't flaunt it in her face, but be truthful if she asks. You are the source of fun and value in the relationship, not her. It's her loss if she goes along with some other dude.
 
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If you said something follow through on it. I know that I am and it will cost me $15,000 because of what I said I would do (live with one of my best friends and stay at the university that i am currently at).

At least now, I can get my philosophy degree.

Also, when you say you are going to do something then do it.

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So you want your cake and you want to eat it too. Double standard is great.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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