Girl is talking to someone else, but wants to grab drinks

[Focal core]

The underlying issue with LDR reside in Intimacy that is stops growing, inevitably will started dying... Its one of the most important ground in order to maintain a relationship.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I thought you said that she is coming over for wine and dinner at your place unless I read the wrong topic??

Different poster

 

[Çharismo]

Different poster

Yea I figured. Disregard my “advice”.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

I know this sounds crazy, but I think this chick digs me.

 

[Billtx49]

I know this sounds crazy, but I think this chick digs me.

Delusion:
a fixed false belief that is resistant to reason or confrontation with actual fact.

 

[Çharismo]

I know this sounds crazy, but I think this chick digs me.

Yea man she is definitely playing hard to get. She is secretly in love with you because she just called me and told me that. Keep pursuing her bro you got this. Matter of fact keep pursuing her until she calls the cops on you.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

Constant rejection sucks. It can only happen so many times before a guy has no self-esteem left.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Constant rejection sucks. It can only happen so many times before a guy has no self-esteem left.

Depends on how you view it. If you view it as a rejection or failure then yeah you are right. But why would you allow someone to have that type of power over you?

If you view it as a learning opportunity to make changes to things that you may have done wrong or need to improve upon then no it won't. You'll make the changes you need to be successful eventually. Might take a lot of dates to reach that point but it's all in your mindset.

For instance OP, on the date did you escalate at all? Kiss her at any point? Touch her? Create any type of sexual vibe?

If not these are things to work on for the next woman

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

You know what I did? I got drunk and acted like an idiot. Apparently I was having a serious conversation with her, then I'd walk off for no reason to the other side of the bar. She said at times I wanted nothing to do with her, and was sending her mixed signals. She said I flirted, told her she was really pretty, then apparently I was telling people she was my girlfriend.

I don't remember exactly, but at the end of the night I wasn't sure where she was, so I just left and called an uber.

She texted me the next day asking what happened, if I was okay, and if I remembered any of it.

Alcohol has ruined pretty much every interaction I've had with women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You know what I did? I got drunk and acted like an idiot. Apparently I was having a serious conversation with her, then I'd walk off for no reason to the other side of the bar. She said at times I wanted nothing to do with her, and was sending her mixed signals. She said I flirted, told her she was really pretty, then apparently I was telling people she was my girlfriend.

I don't remember exactly, but at the end of the night I wasn't sure where she was, so I just left and called an uber.

She texted me the next day asking what happened, if I was okay, and if I remembered any of it.

Alcohol has ruined pretty much every interaction I've had with women.

I mean why would you get that drunk on a date? I don't get it. If you know this is an issue then don't drink. Drink water. Order a Coke. I've drank water numerous times on first dates, and it never caused any issues for me.

OP, I don't mean to sound like a jackass but it sounds you need to focus your priorities on getting your life in order not on women.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

It wasn't really a date. Her friends were there. She was playing bar dice when I walked in, lol. She did give me a hug when I walked up to her, though.

And drink water? Sit there sober while everyone else is having a blast? Yeah, that's really going to impress her.

 

[redskinsfan92]

You just received a "let's just be friends" rejection. Verbal though. Doesn't mean sh1t until her actions line up. Right now she blowing up your phone. Go for it.

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

Amazing at 75% of this advice, I honestly wouldn't even bother with a chick like this. If a chick tells you there are other guys she has low IL. no chick with high IL would say that. The fact that you have been chasing her just to get a date proves this

Guys really need to learn to spin plates, once you have multiple options you wouldn't even think about dealing with a chick who is using you as a "Backup" and has the gal to tell you. I wouldn't have wasted my time with this chick

What you don't understand is that a lot of women will stay stuff like this to test you on how you're going to react.

 

[Billtx49]

What you don't understand is that a lot of women will stay stuff like this to test you on how you're going to react.

Yep, you went to a bar on not a real date, got too drunk, acted like a fool. What do you think the results of her test vs. your expectations are…

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

You're exactly right bill. The problem is, I knew it was a test. It's almost like I screwed up on purpose.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

It wasn't really a date. Her friends were there. She was playing bar dice when I walked in, lol. She did give me a hug when I walked up to her, though.

And drink water? Sit there sober while everyone else is having a blast? Yeah, that's really going to impress her.

That's your problem. You are worried about impressing her. She should be worried about impressing you. Mindset bro, mindset.

You would be far better off drinking water than acting like that. Trust me on that one. And if you need alcohol to have a blast well, then I feel bad for you.