"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Girl is crying - What to do in this situation

zorg198

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Hello,

I am asking this just to understand the situation ....

If you like a girl but you are not GF & BF and she's crying for some reason what a guy needs to do in this situation.

Personally i am a person who just see this and walk away since i am not attached to my feelings so much...

kind of a weird question but i would like to hear your opinion.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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give her a bunch of non-descript, un-labeled vitamin c pills and tell her you'll help her commit suicide. fetch her a glass of water. stroke her hair a couple of times. look serious. bite your lips. then leave.
 

zorg198

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bricks said:
give her a bunch of non-descript, un-labeled vitamin c pills and tell her you'll help her commit suicide. fetch her a glass of water. stroke her hair a couple of times. look serious. bite your lips. then leave.

lol, this is what i always do, though i am doing something wrong.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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zorg198

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LOL.... i know its a stupid question.

usually i just ignore it and move on but i thought i am doing something wrong not treating her right..
 

zorg198

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what i meant is no matter what is the reason she's crying is it good idea to come and comfort her? will this looks like you are a wuss or whatever?
 

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I use it as an excuse to say something that might turn her on to me later.
 

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This really is context specific. 95% of the time you just let her do what she needs to do and either leave her be. The other 5% you can be the shoulder she cries on, but beware becoming the emotional tampon.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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zorg198

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Upside said:
This really is context specific. 95% of the time you just let her do what she needs to do and either leave her be. The other 5% you can be the shoulder she cries on, but beware becoming the emotional tampon.

yeah... i don't want to be where the 5 % are.
 
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